Tag: Devaluation

Borderline: Narcissist’s Mirror (and Avoidant Personality Disorder)

In this video, the speaker explored the psychodynamic relationship between borderline personality disorder (BPD) and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), proposing that BPD is a mirror image of narcissism, with distinct but parallel mechanisms of control and anxiety relating to presence and absence in relationships. The discussion included differences in how both disorders manage intimacy, separation, and devaluation, as well as their avoidant and schizoid phases, contrasted with avoidant personality disorder (AvPD), which shares some symptoms but differs fundamentally in causes and behavioral responses. The speaker also illustrated avoidant personality disorder with a clinical example, emphasizing its common misdiagnosis due to overlapping traits with BPD and NPD despite distinct psychodynamic foundations.

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Make Narcissist FEAR YOU: Abandonment Anxiety, Annihilation Dread (Twin Anxieties)

In this video, Sam Vaknin explains the narcissist’s fear of abandonment, highlighting the paradox where narcissists both dread abandonment by their idealized objects yet push others away during the devaluation phase due to their twin anxieties of abandonment and annihilation. He elaborates on how these anxieties influence narcissistic behavior and offers strategies to leverage the abandonment anxiety in the idealization phase through threats of leaving, while using implied power to deter abuse during the devaluation phase. Vaknin emphasizes that understanding these dynamics can help those involved with narcissists manage or mitigate abuse, although his primary recommendation remains to cut contact if possible.

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SECRET Reason Narcissist Devalues, Discards YOU

The speaker explores the complex behaviors of narcissists, particularly their tendencies to devalue, discard, and replace partners as a reenactment of unresolved childhood conflicts with their mothers. They explain how narcissists manipulate their partners mentally by internalizing and controlling their inner critic and ego functions, leading to emotional abuse that is more about the narcissist’s internal struggles than the victim. The discussion concludes by connecting the rise of narcissism to broader societal shifts from agricultural to urban living, and predicts even more adverse psychological effects with the advent of the metaverse and virtual realities.

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Is There Good Narcissism? (The Nerve with Maureen Callahan)

The speaker discussed the concept of narcissism, emphasizing that a certain degree of narcissism is natural and necessary for healthy self-esteem, but can become pathological and harmful. They explained the narcissist’s behavior, awareness of their impact, and the dynamic of the “fantastic space” or fantasy world narcissists create to manipulate their victims, highlighting the transition from idealization to devaluation. The conversation also covered the challenges in treating narcissistic personality disorder and the psychological effects on victims, concluding that awareness often arises when the narcissist’s idealization phase abruptly shifts to devaluation.

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Victim of Narcissist: Move On!

Summary: Understanding and Coping with Narcissists 1. The Narcissist’s Inner World and Grandiosity Gap The narcissist lives in a fantasized world of ideal beauty, achievements,

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