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Date from Hell: Dating Narcissists and Psychopaths

In this video, Sam Vaknin discussed his personal experience with narcissistic personality disorder and his pioneering work in identifying and defining narcissism and related personality disorders. He explained the behaviors and psychological traits of narcissists and psychopaths, their impact on relationships, and the challenges victims face, emphasizing the prevalence of these disorders in various social settings. Vaknin also highlighted the importance of education to recognize narcissistic traits and recommended his book “Malignant Self-Love” as a valuable resource for understanding and coping with narcissistic abuse. Date from Hell: Dating Narcissists and Psychopaths

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04.11.2025

Borderline’s Partner: Some Enter Healthy, Exit Mentally Ill (Starts 12:10)

The discussion focused on how individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) often transform their intimate partners, even mentally healthy ones, into narcissists through a dynamic of unstable internal and external object constancy. It was explained that borderlines struggle with maintaining stable internal representations of others, leading to chaotic behaviors and emotional dysregulation, which drives partners to withdraw and develop internal objects representing the borderline, mirroring narcissistic dynamics. This cyclical interaction produces mutual avoidance and approach behaviors, perpetuating a complex and destructive relationship pattern where both parties exhibit traits of narcissism and borderline pathology. Borderline’s Partner: Some Enter Healthy, Exit Mentally Ill (Starts 12:10)

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03.11.2025

Deja-vu: Fight Gaslighter’s Secret Techniques, Messing with YOUR Mind

This video provided an in-depth analysis of gaslighting, describing it as a manipulative psychological tactic used primarily by psychopaths to destabilize victims’ sense of reality through techniques like déjà vu, semantic satiation, and induced dissociation. It highlighted the emotional abuse involved, including invalidation, twisting of reality, and coercion, while emphasizing the importance of recognizing gaslighting signs, documenting experiences, asserting one’s reality, and seeking external support or professional help. The discussion also referenced academic perspectives, including Michelle Foucault’s interpretation of madness, and concluded with practical advice for victims to regain self-trust and mental health. Deja-vu: Fight Gaslighter’s Secret Techniques, Messing with YOUR Mind

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29.10.2025

Victim or Narcissist? Tell Them Apart!

In this video, the speaker explained how to distinguish true victims from narcissists who falsely claim victimhood by highlighting key behaviors such as splitting, generalization, self-pity, and denial of responsibility. Narcissists often portray themselves as flawless victims, avoid accountability, and use victimhood manipulatively for personal gain, whereas real victims exhibit nuanced self-awareness and take responsibility for their circumstances. The speaker provided practical tests and signs to identify narcissistic victimhood, emphasizing the importance of critical evaluation in interactions. Victim or Narcissist? Tell Them Apart!

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26.10.2025

Cheating, Triangulation in Sick Relationships: Power Play, Revenge, Entitlement

This video explored the dynamics of cheating and triangulation in toxic, obsessive relationships, highlighting how these behaviors serve as tools for power plays, revenge, and emotional regulation rather than true romantic or sexual pursuits. It examined how such actions reinforce dysfunctional bonds, confirm internalized negative self-views, and often follow phases of extreme loyalty and trauma-induced behavior. Additionally, the discussion covered narcissistic motivations for cheating, including entitlement, control, boredom, and fear of intimacy, as well as the risks and consequences of using third parties in triangulation. Cheating, Triangulation in Sick Relationships: Power Play, Revenge, Entitlement

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20.10.2025

Autists Lack Empathy, “Empaths” Deceive, Manipulate

In this video, the speaker presented evidence from recent studies showing that children with autism spectrum disorder exhibit deficits in empathy and self-conscious emotions such as guilt and shame, likening these traits to those found in narcissists and psychopaths. The discussion also highlighted that so-called empaths are often narcissists or psychopaths who manipulate others through deceptive signaling of high sensitivity as a strategy to gain sympathy or control. Overall, the speaker emphasized the complex interplay between neurodevelopmental and personality disorders, challenging common perceptions about empathy and victimhood. Autists Lack Empathy, “Empaths” Deceive, Manipulate

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20.10.2025

Serial idealizers, Anxious People-pleasers, Addicts: NOT Narcissists

In this lecture, the speaker, Sam Dagny, explores misunderstood behaviors often mistaken for pathological narcissism, focusing on serial idealizers, anxious people pleasers, addicts, and individuals with borderline personality disorder. He differentiates these groups by highlighting their unique psychodynamic processes, such as the serial idealizers’ rapid fantasy creation, people pleasers’ anxiety-driven boundarylessness, addicts’ denial of control, and borderlines’ fear of abandonment and engulfment. The talk emphasizes that grandiosity, while common in narcissism, also appears in various other mental health disorders, cautioning against conflating grandiosity with narcissism itself.

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16.10.2025

Querying the Enemy: Hurt People Question Narcissism’s Aftermath (Q&A Skopje Seminar, 2025)

In the seminar, Professor Sam Vaknin discussed the dynamics of narcissistic families, explaining concepts like projective splitting, the roles of scapegoat and golden child, and the conditional nature of love in narcissistic relationships. He emphasized the difficulty in recognizing narcissists due to cognitive dissonance, the contagious nature of narcissism, and distinctions between narcissistic traits and clinical narcissism. The session also touched on complex issues such as shared fantasies in relationships, the rare clinical diagnosis of narcissism compared to narcissistic traits, and the unique sexual dynamics in narcissists. Querying the Enemy: Hurt People Question Narcissism’s Aftermath (Q&A Skopje Seminar, 2025)

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15.10.2025

Narcissist’s “Mother” and Anti-“mother” (Excerpt)

The discussion explored the complex psychological dynamics of narcissists seeking idealized maternal figures, particularly focusing on male heterosexual narcissists’ quest for a flawless, devoted partner to sustain their grandiose fantasies. The narrative described the narcissist’s cyclical pattern of adoring a “mother” figure, rejecting her upon inevitable failure, and then engaging with an “anti-mother” who embodies destructiveness and self-punishment. Ultimately, this cycle perpetuates the narcissist’s pursuit of redemption, absolution, and transcendence through repeated relational patterns.

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12.10.2025

First AI: Narcissists, Psychopaths (2014 Lecture) (Vaknin Narcissism Summaries)

The video explored the concept of artificial intelligence, emphasizing machines convincing humans they are human and raising philosophical questions about empathy and the nature of humanity. It delved into the psychological traits of narcissists and psychopaths, highlighting their lack of empathy, objectification of others, and the impact on human interaction and communication. The conversation concluded with reflections on collective mental health issues and the perceived divide between psychology and psychiatry within the scientific community.

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12.10.2025

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