Tag: Aggression

Borderline’s Mating Strategies, Aggression Mismanaged

The video is focused on the mating strategies and aggression patterns of Cluster B personality disorders, particularly borderline personality disorder (BPD), highlighting their self-defeating behaviors and difficulty in managing aggression. It explained how borderline individuals use manipulative tactics in relationships, struggle with approach-avoidance dynamics due to misdirected aggression, and internalize their anger leading to self-destructive behaviors. The discussion emphasized the need for Cluster B patients to learn healthy externalization and sublimation of aggression through therapy and socially acceptable outlets. Borderline’s Mating Strategies, Aggression Mismanaged

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Narcissist’s Fantasy Not About YOU, Psychopath’s Is (Collateral Victimhood)

In this video, San Vaknin clarified the distinction between narcissistic and psychopathic fantasies, emphasizing that narcissistic fantasies revolve around the narcissist’s grandiose self-concept and needs, while psychopathic fantasies focus on fulfilling the victim’s desires. He explained that narcissists are impaired in reality testing due to their reliance on delusional fantasies that combine factual elements inaccurately, leading to dissociation and self-supply defenses. The discussion highlighted that narcissists genuinely believe their fantasies and seek to induct others into these self-centered realities, contrasting with psychopaths who manipulate victims to achieve pragmatic goals. Narcissist’s Fantasy Not About YOU, Psychopath’s Is (Collateral Victimhood)

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Date from Hell: Dating Narcissists and Psychopaths

In this video, Sam Vaknin discussed his personal experience with narcissistic personality disorder and his pioneering work in identifying and defining narcissism and related personality disorders. He explained the behaviors and psychological traits of narcissists and psychopaths, their impact on relationships, and the challenges victims face, emphasizing the prevalence of these disorders in various social settings. Vaknin also highlighted the importance of education to recognize narcissistic traits and recommended his book “Malignant Self-Love” as a valuable resource for understanding and coping with narcissistic abuse. Date from Hell: Dating Narcissists and Psychopaths

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Narcissist’s Sex: Competition, Degrading Porn

In this video, Sam Vaknin explores the concept of sex as a competitive and autoerotic act in the world of narcissists, emphasizing that narcissistic sex is driven by performance anxiety, entitlement, and an overwhelming focus on self-gratification. He explains that narcissists view their partners as objects for validation and competition against past lovers and themselves, resulting in mechanistic, impersonal, and ultimately degrading sexual experiences. Despite the consensual nature of these encounters, the narcissist’s inability to engage in genuine intimacy leads to narcissistic injury and leaves partners feeling diminished and used. Narcissist’s Sex: Competition, Degrading Porn

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How Narcissist Collapses Furiously

The speaker discussed the multifaceted nature of narcissistic collapse, emphasizing it arises not only from deficient narcissistic supply but also from the rejection of the narcissist’s shared fantasy by others, leading to feelings of injustice, anger, and potential self-destructive behaviors. The collapse can manifest as externalized aggression or internalized depression, with narcissists oscillating between seeking high-grade supply, self-supply, and rejecting low-grade or fake supply, often resulting in a vicious cycle of hostility and social alienation. Recovery from collapse involves resuscitating narcissistic supply and grandiosity, though repeated collapses increase anxiety, depression, and risk of borderline personality features or suicidal ideation, especially as narcissists age. How Narcissist Collapses Furiously

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Overt+Covert Narcissist in One Person: Self-supply (44:17), Binary Narcissism

The speaker discusses the concept of a system of residuals in narcissism, where two distinct narcissistic self-states—overt and covert—can coexist simultaneously within one individual, leading to internal conflict and dissonance. This binary system arises when neither state is effective alone, resulting in self-supply dynamics through mutual hostility and fantasy defenses. The speaker suggests that this state, while challenging, presents a unique therapeutic opportunity to induce vulnerability and promote healing through educational and empathetic interventions. Overt+Covert Narcissist in One Person: Self-supply (44:17), Binary Narcissism

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Prosocial Sadistic Narcissist: Unforgiving, Harsh “Tough Love”

In this meeting, Samvaknin discusses the nature of pro-social or communal narcissists, describing them as deeply dependent on others for internal regulation despite their grandiose self-image. He explains that these sadistic narcissist resolve the conflict between their superiority complex and reliance on others by adopting roles as moral guardians or champions of collective causes, which justifies their demanding and punitive behavior. This external narrative serves as a false self that masks their internal feelings of inadequacy and is likened to a form of psychosis due to their expansive, consuming egocentric worldview.

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