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Narcissistic Abuse: Phase 2 (Live Questions by Mark Thomas Beare, MPIT originator)

Speaker addressed a deleted live session where YouTube removed over 1,400 questions, explaining they will respond to reinstated questions from Mark Thomas Beare about flaws in the narcissistic abuse recovery field. Main points: the field is dominated by a victimhood morality play and oversimplified, aggrandizing content; real recovery is complex, requiring restoration of agency, stable boundaries, introspection, and abandonment of victimhood. The speaker offered numerous observable signs of genuine recovery (e.g., no internalized abuser voices, restored reality testing, autonomous motivation, healthy relationships) and warned against quick-fix advice and unqualified self-styled experts. Narcissistic Abuse: Phase 2 (Live Questions by Mark Thomas Beare, MPIT originator)

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09.01.2026
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Narcissistic Mortification: From Shame to Healing via Trauma, Fear, and Guilt

The speaker explained narcissistic mortification as the traumatic, terror-inducing collapse of a narcissist’s false self when confronted with reality, often rooted in early object-relational abuse and unmet developmental needs. Mortification can trigger extreme defenses (grandiosity, denial, projection, revenge, or self-blame) and may be reenacted through relationships to recreate primary trauma; if endured and integrated it can allow healing by exposing the false self and enabling shame, guilt, and empathy. Treatment aims to convert overwhelming mortification into bearable shame and re-establish a tolerable self-state, often through controlled retraumatization that opens the possibility of therapeutic reintegration. Narcissistic Mortification: From Shame to Healing via Trauma, Fear, and Guilt

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25.12.2025

Narcissistic Abuse is Grueling TEST: Did YOU Pass It? (Clip: Skopje Seminar, May 2025)

The speaker explains how narcissists idealize others by imposing a shared fantasy and using love bombing to make victims fall in love with an inflated, mirror-like image of themselves. This creates a dual mothership dynamic where the victim becomes both mother and child to the narcissist, producing an intense, enmeshed attachment that reproduces early developmental failures in separation-individuation. The narcissist then tests the victim’s maternal devotion through escalating abuse to determine whether the victim will remain, enabling the narcissist’s attempted individuation and continued control. Narcissistic Abuse is Grueling TEST: Did YOU Pass It? (Clip: Skopje Seminar, May 2025)

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21.12.2025

Abuse Victims MUST Watch This! (with Psychotherapist Renzo Santa María)

Professor Sam Vaknin argued that narcissistic abuse causes distinct, reversible trauma by imposing the abuser’s deficits on victims—eroding identity, agency, reality testing, and inducing internalized ‘introject’ voices that perpetuate suffering. He recommended initial self-work (identifying and silencing alien internal voices, rebuilding an authentic internal friend, body-focused interventions, and delaying therapy until the narcissistic voice is weakened), strict no-contact as the primary protection, and targeted therapies (IFS, schema, CBT, EMDR) for longer-term recovery. Vaknin cautioned against two common recovery mistakes—maintaining contact in the hope the narcissist will restore what was taken, and adopting a lifelong victim identity—and advocated building trauma resilience and proactive, preventive strategies. Abuse Victims MUST Watch This! (with Psychotherapist Renzo Santa María)

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24.11.2025

Why Narcissists MUST Abuse YOU (Skopje Seminar Opening, May 2025)

The seminar, organized by the Vaknin Vangelovska Foundation, provided an in-depth, research-based exploration of pathological narcissism, its impact on victims, and the complex dynamics of the shared fantasy between narcissists and those they manipulate. Key topics included the distinction between narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic style, the contagious nature of narcissism, and the profound psychological damage inflicted on victims, including epistemic injury and identity estrangement. The speaker also addressed misconceptions about narcissism, such as the myth of victim selection and the nature of narcissistic sexuality, promising further detailed discussions in subsequent sessions on coping, recovery, and healing. Why Narcissists MUST Abuse YOU (Skopje Seminar Opening, May 2025)

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20.11.2025
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Narcissistic Abuse: View from the Amazon (with Marcia Maia)

The meeting involved a detailed discussion on narcissism, its psychological impact, and distinctions from psychopathy and borderline personality disorder, emphasizing the deep trauma caused by narcissistic mothers. The speakers explored the unconscious dynamics of narcissistic abuse, the victim’s addiction to idealization phases, and the challenges of recognizing and healing from such abuse. Additionally, the conversation highlighted the complexity of narcissistic identity, the difficulty in differentiating it from related disorders, and the importance of alternative supportive models for affected children. Narcissistic Abuse: View from the Amazon (with Marcia Maia)

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15.11.2025
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Narcissistic Abuse: Un-Shadow Your Life, Mind (with Sara Martinez, Vine Sisters)

In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discussed the complexities of narcissistic and covert abuse, emphasizing how victims are often trapped in a distorted reality due to the abuser’s manipulative behaviors like gaslighting and intermittent reinforcement. He highlighted the long-term psychological and physiological impacts on survivors, including identity loss, addiction to idealization, and challenges in trusting others, while assuring that recovery is possible with patience and support. Additionally, Professor Vaknin addressed broader societal parallels of abuse, decoding the manipulative tactics of narcissists as well as misconceptions about narcissism, its origins, and the difficulties in healing or changing the abuser. Narcissistic Abuse

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13.11.2025

How to Resurrect Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse: 9-fold Path of Healing

The speaker presents a nine-principle path to recovering from narcissistic abuse, divided into three categories: body (attention, regulation, protection), mind (authenticity, positivity, mindfulness), and systemic functions (vigilant observer, shielding sensor, reality sentinel). Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and grounding in reality, the framework guides survivors to reclaim their identity and rebuild mental and physical health. The approach stresses balancing acceptance of reality with filtering harmful inputs to foster healing and resilience. How to Resurrect Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse: 9-fold Path of Healing

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08.11.2025

Why Narcissist Devalues YOU (Hint: Wants YOU “Dead”) – Binary Narcissism

In this video, Sam Wagner explained that narcissists devalue intimate partners because they resist conforming to the narcissist’s rigid internalized “snapshot” and challenge their grandiosity, which threatens their sense of control and exacerbates their deep-seated existential emptiness. He detailed the complex internal dynamic of narcissists stuck between overt and covert states, where an internal “civil war” leads to simultaneous idealization and devaluation of others, with the overt part interacting with external sources for narcissistic supply while the covert part preemptively devalues those same sources to protect itself. This internal conflict results in confused and damaging relational patterns, uniquely constituting what Wagner terms “narcissistic abuse.”Why Narcissist Devalues YOU (Hint: Wants YOU “Dead”) – Binary Narcissism

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27.10.2025

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