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Narcissist’s “Mother” and Anti-“mother” (Excerpt)

The discussion explored the complex psychological dynamics of narcissists seeking idealized maternal figures, particularly focusing on male heterosexual narcissists’ quest for a flawless, devoted partner to sustain their grandiose fantasies. The narrative described the narcissist’s cyclical pattern of adoring a “mother” figure, rejecting her upon inevitable failure, and then engaging with an “anti-mother” who embodies destructiveness and self-punishment. Ultimately, this cycle perpetuates the narcissist’s pursuit of redemption, absolution, and transcendence through repeated relational patterns.

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12.10.2025

Cesspool Covert Narcissist: From Victimhood to Sadism (Vaknin Narcissism Summaries YouTube Channel)

The meeting explored the characteristics of covert narcissism, emphasizing traits such as envy, pseudo humility, victimhood, and an extensive fantasy life used to compensate for real-life ineffectiveness. It highlighted the sadistic component of narcissism, particularly how covert narcissists use passive-aggressive tactics to exert power and inflict pain while avoiding direct confrontation. Additionally, research from Italy was discussed, linking sadism in narcissism to malicious envy and narcissistic rivalry, underscoring the complex interplay between control, anxiety, and deriving pleasure from others’ suffering.

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08.10.2025

Narcissist: When Defenses Crumble, Shame Overwhelms: Narcissistic Mortification, Pt. 2 (Compilation)

In this comprehensive discussion, Sam Vaknin explains narcissistic motification as a severe psychological event distinct from narcissistic injury, characterized by public humiliation that dismantles the narcissist’s defenses and leads to profound shame, grief, and potential suicidal ideation. He describes the stages following motification, including internal and external attributions of blame, and how these affect the narcissist’s behavior, often resulting in vindictive actions to restore grandiosity. Additionally, Vaknin explores the dynamics of narcissistic relationships, highlighting key behaviors such as hoovering, approach-avoidance cycles, and the complex interplay of intimacy, control, and abandonment within shared fantasies.

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08.10.2025
Epstein-Maxwell, Their Hebephile, Pedophile Clients: Psychological Profile of Pedophilia-Hebephilia

How Narcissist Experiences/Reacts to No Contact, Grey Rock, Mirroring, Coping, Survival Techniques

The lecture explored the intricate psychology of narcissists, explaining their post-traumatic origins, ontological insecurity, and dissociative nature, which result in a fractured and unstable sense of self. It emphasized the futility of emotional or rational engagement with narcissists, highlighting their lack of genuine empathy, paradoxical thinking, and manipulative power dynamics resembling a cult-like religion centered on the false self. Practical advice was offered on managing relationships with narcissists, including maintaining emotional detachment, reversing manipulation cycles, and leveraging their magical thinking and paranoia to one’s advantage.

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07.10.2025

Narcissist’s Idealization in Grandiosity Bubble

Sam Vaknin explained the concept of grandiosity bubbles as defensive fantasy constructs narcissists create to maintain an inflated self-image and avoid confronting reality, especially during transitions between sources of narcissistic supply. These bubbles serve as temporary, protective isolations where the narcissist can recover from narcissistic injury without experiencing humiliation or collapse, contrasting with more stable shared fantasies maintained in pathological narcissistic spaces. The grandiosity bubble ultimately dissolves without harm, enabling the narcissist to resume their manipulative cycles of idealization, devaluation, and exploitation.

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04.10.2025

SECRET Reason Narcissist Devalues, Discards YOU

The speaker explores the complex behaviors of narcissists, particularly their tendencies to devalue, discard, and replace partners as a reenactment of unresolved childhood conflicts with their mothers. They explain how narcissists manipulate their partners mentally by internalizing and controlling their inner critic and ego functions, leading to emotional abuse that is more about the narcissist’s internal struggles than the victim. The discussion concludes by connecting the rise of narcissism to broader societal shifts from agricultural to urban living, and predicts even more adverse psychological effects with the advent of the metaverse and virtual realities.

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01.10.2025

How to Hatch in Narcissist’s Mind: Internal to External Object

Sam Vaknin explained that narcissists perceive others not as separate external entities but as internal objects or avatars within their own minds, using primitive defenses such as projection and splitting internally on these representations rather than on the actual people. He emphasized that challenging a narcissist’s internal object through asserting personal autonomy, disagreeing, or maintaining external relationships can provoke aggression but is essential to affirm one’s separateness and reality. Ultimately, Vaknin advised that recognizing this dynamic helps in coping with narcissists, as attempts to assert external reality can disrupt the narcissist’s fantasy but may risk the relationship.

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19.09.2025

Narcissist: Locus of Grandiosity, Type Fluidity

The discussion focused on the concept of the “locus of grandiosity” in narcissism, explaining that narcissists seek to be perceived as unique through a self-enhancing narrative that varies by individual interests or attributes, rather than uniformly wanting to be the best in all areas. It was emphasized that narcissists exhibit type fluidity, meaning their personality traits and grandiose narratives can shift in response to psychological stress or collapse, transitioning between narcissistic, borderline, and psychopathic states. This fluidity results in an absence of a stable core identity, making narcissists highly inconsistent and difficult to predict, as they continuously generate varying self-defining stories.

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30.08.2025

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