Tag: Narcissist

Why Narcissist Devalues YOU (Hint: Wants YOU “Dead”) – Binary Narcissism

In this video, Sam Wagner explained that narcissists devalue intimate partners because they resist conforming to the narcissist’s rigid internalized “snapshot” and challenge their grandiosity, which threatens their sense of control and exacerbates their deep-seated existential emptiness. He detailed the complex internal dynamic of narcissists stuck between overt and covert states, where an internal “civil war” leads to simultaneous idealization and devaluation of others, with the overt part interacting with external sources for narcissistic supply while the covert part preemptively devalues those same sources to protect itself. This internal conflict results in confused and damaging relational patterns, uniquely constituting what Wagner terms “narcissistic abuse.”Why Narcissist Devalues YOU (Hint: Wants YOU “Dead”) – Binary Narcissism

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Narcissist and Attention: It’s Complicated

In this video, the speaker explored the concept of attention, identifying three types: synoptic, targeted, and inclusive, with narcissists predominantly exhibiting a hyperfocused, targeted attention to secure narcissistic supply. The narcissist’s attention is narrowly constricted, disregarding any information irrelevant to maintaining their grandiose self-image, often resulting in an impaired ability to perceive broader consequences or social cues. Consequently, narcissists operate with a binary, one-track mindset, prioritizing attention solely for self-regulation and neglecting other meaningful stimuli or insights. Narcissist and Attention: It’s Complicated

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Make Narcissist FEAR YOU: Abandonment Anxiety, Annihilation Dread (Twin Anxieties)

In this video, Sam Vaknin explains the narcissist’s fear of abandonment, highlighting the paradox where narcissists both dread abandonment by their idealized objects yet push others away during the devaluation phase due to their twin anxieties of abandonment and annihilation. He elaborates on how these anxieties influence narcissistic behavior and offers strategies to leverage the abandonment anxiety in the idealization phase through threats of leaving, while using implied power to deter abuse during the devaluation phase. Vaknin emphasizes that understanding these dynamics can help those involved with narcissists manage or mitigate abuse, although his primary recommendation remains to cut contact if possible.

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Impotent Sexual Narcissist: Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation

The video is focused on the complex relationship between narcissism, particularly covert narcissism, and sexual dysfunction, emphasizing psychological factors such as intimacy fears, autoerotism, and the challenge to the narcissist’s grandiose self-concept. Research findings were discussed highlighting that narcissistic traits and psychopathy correlate positively with erectile dysfunction, while Machiavellianism and high sexual self-efficacy may have protective effects. Additionally, the impact of personality disorders on sexual dysfunction in chronic pain patients was reviewed, underscoring the importance of addressing underlying psychological issues for effective treatment.

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Narcissist’s Relationship Cycle Decoded and What To Do About It – Part 1 of 3

In this seminar, Sam Vaknin explored the complex psychology of pathological narcissism, explaining it as a result of childhood trauma and arrested development, characterized by repetition compulsion, emotional dysregulation, and a pervasive self-loathing. He detailed the cyclical nature of relationships with narcissists, including love bombing, idealization, devaluation, and discard, emphasizing the narcissist’s unconscious attempt to resolve early maternal conflicts through intimate partners. Vaknin highlighted that narcissists, lacking true self-love and stable identity, use their partners to fulfill unmet developmental needs, ultimately leading to a toxic dynamic where separation and individuation can only occur through devaluation and discard.

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Narcissist’s “Mother” and Anti-“mother” (Excerpt)

The discussion explored the complex psychological dynamics of narcissists seeking idealized maternal figures, particularly focusing on male heterosexual narcissists’ quest for a flawless, devoted partner to sustain their grandiose fantasies. The narrative described the narcissist’s cyclical pattern of adoring a “mother” figure, rejecting her upon inevitable failure, and then engaging with an “anti-mother” who embodies destructiveness and self-punishment. Ultimately, this cycle perpetuates the narcissist’s pursuit of redemption, absolution, and transcendence through repeated relational patterns.

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Cesspool Covert Narcissist: From Victimhood to Sadism (Vaknin Narcissism Summaries YouTube Channel)

The meeting explored the characteristics of covert narcissism, emphasizing traits such as envy, pseudo humility, victimhood, and an extensive fantasy life used to compensate for real-life ineffectiveness. It highlighted the sadistic component of narcissism, particularly how covert narcissists use passive-aggressive tactics to exert power and inflict pain while avoiding direct confrontation. Additionally, research from Italy was discussed, linking sadism in narcissism to malicious envy and narcissistic rivalry, underscoring the complex interplay between control, anxiety, and deriving pleasure from others’ suffering.

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Narcissist: When Defenses Crumble, Shame Overwhelms: Narcissistic Mortification, Pt. 2 (Compilation)

In this comprehensive discussion, Sam Vaknin explains narcissistic motification as a severe psychological event distinct from narcissistic injury, characterized by public humiliation that dismantles the narcissist’s defenses and leads to profound shame, grief, and potential suicidal ideation. He describes the stages following motification, including internal and external attributions of blame, and how these affect the narcissist’s behavior, often resulting in vindictive actions to restore grandiosity. Additionally, Vaknin explores the dynamics of narcissistic relationships, highlighting key behaviors such as hoovering, approach-avoidance cycles, and the complex interplay of intimacy, control, and abandonment within shared fantasies.

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Epstein-Maxwell, Their Hebephile, Pedophile Clients: Psychological Profile of Pedophilia-Hebephilia

How Narcissist Experiences/Reacts to No Contact, Grey Rock, Mirroring, Coping, Survival Techniques

The lecture explored the intricate psychology of narcissists, explaining their post-traumatic origins, ontological insecurity, and dissociative nature, which result in a fractured and unstable sense of self. It emphasized the futility of emotional or rational engagement with narcissists, highlighting their lack of genuine empathy, paradoxical thinking, and manipulative power dynamics resembling a cult-like religion centered on the false self. Practical advice was offered on managing relationships with narcissists, including maintaining emotional detachment, reversing manipulation cycles, and leveraging their magical thinking and paranoia to one’s advantage.

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Narcissist’s Idealization in Grandiosity Bubble

Sam Vaknin explained the concept of grandiosity bubbles as defensive fantasy constructs narcissists create to maintain an inflated self-image and avoid confronting reality, especially during transitions between sources of narcissistic supply. These bubbles serve as temporary, protective isolations where the narcissist can recover from narcissistic injury without experiencing humiliation or collapse, contrasting with more stable shared fantasies maintained in pathological narcissistic spaces. The grandiosity bubble ultimately dissolves without harm, enabling the narcissist to resume their manipulative cycles of idealization, devaluation, and exploitation.

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