The speaker explains how narcissists idealize others by imposing a shared fantasy and using love bombing to make victims fall in love with an inflated, mirror-like image of themselves. This creates a dual mothership dynamic where the victim becomes both mother and child to the narcissist, producing an intense, enmeshed attachment that reproduces early developmental failures in separation-individuation. The narcissist then tests the victim’s maternal devotion through escalating abuse to determine whether the victim will remain, enabling the narcissist’s attempted individuation and continued control. Narcissistic Abuse is Grueling TEST: Did YOU Pass It? (Clip: Skopje Seminar, May 2025)