Tag: Grandiosity Gap

Why Narcissist Never Feels Sorry

Sam Vaknin explained why narcissists rarely apologize, attributing it to a false self born of childhood trauma, grandiose omnipotent beliefs, entitlement, manipulative skills, and impaired empathy and reality testing. He described how these defenses produce a sense of immunity to consequences, chronic dysphoria beneath grandiosity, and defensive misbehavior that harms others, while noting narcissists can control actions when sufficiently incentivized and thus should generally be held accountable. Practical implications include recognizing manipulative patterns, understanding the narcissist’s internal pain and entitlement, and maintaining boundaries while seeking accountability. Why Narcissist Never Feels Sorry

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Reality as Narcissistic Injury (Grandiosity Gap)

The speaker discussed the inherent contradiction in psychology and self-help between expanding oneself through exploration and the simultaneous societal demand for self-control and limitation. This paradox is pronounced in pathological narcissism, where individuals reject the constraining reality in favor of an inflated, fantastical self-concept, resulting in a persistent conflict between reality and fantasy. The narcissist’s refusal to accept reality leads to narcissistic injury, rage, and abuse, ultimately causing emotional dysregulation and the formation of a false self disconnected from true reality. Reality as Narcissistic Injury (Grandiosity Gap)

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Victim of Narcissist: Move On!

Summary: Understanding and Coping with Narcissists 1. The Narcissist’s Inner World and Grandiosity Gap The narcissist lives in a fantasized world of ideal beauty, achievements,

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