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3 Reactions to Narcissistic Abuse: Pride, Defiance, Normalizing

The video discussed three primary coping mechanisms victims use to survive narcissistic abuse: embracing victimhood pride, responding with defiant reactive abuse, and adopting a submissive stance often marked by denial or self-blame. It outlined two phases of narcissistic abuse—gradual, imperceptible testing and abrupt, harsh devaluation—and examined how these induce pathological mindsets in victims, including professional victims who identify strongly with their victimhood. The conversation also highlighted the complexity of trauma bonding and how victims’ reactions impact their mental health and relationship dynamics.

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14.10.2025

Impotent Sexual Narcissist: Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation

The video is focused on the complex relationship between narcissism, particularly covert narcissism, and sexual dysfunction, emphasizing psychological factors such as intimacy fears, autoerotism, and the challenge to the narcissist’s grandiose self-concept. Research findings were discussed highlighting that narcissistic traits and psychopathy correlate positively with erectile dysfunction, while Machiavellianism and high sexual self-efficacy may have protective effects. Additionally, the impact of personality disorders on sexual dysfunction in chronic pain patients was reviewed, underscoring the importance of addressing underlying psychological issues for effective treatment.

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13.10.2025

Narcissist’s Relationship Cycle Decoded and What To Do About It – Part 1 of 3

In this seminar, Sam Vaknin explored the complex psychology of pathological narcissism, explaining it as a result of childhood trauma and arrested development, characterized by repetition compulsion, emotional dysregulation, and a pervasive self-loathing. He detailed the cyclical nature of relationships with narcissists, including love bombing, idealization, devaluation, and discard, emphasizing the narcissist’s unconscious attempt to resolve early maternal conflicts through intimate partners. Vaknin highlighted that narcissists, lacking true self-love and stable identity, use their partners to fulfill unmet developmental needs, ultimately leading to a toxic dynamic where separation and individuation can only occur through devaluation and discard.

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13.10.2025

Narcissist’s “Mother” and Anti-“mother” (Excerpt)

The discussion explored the complex psychological dynamics of narcissists seeking idealized maternal figures, particularly focusing on male heterosexual narcissists’ quest for a flawless, devoted partner to sustain their grandiose fantasies. The narrative described the narcissist’s cyclical pattern of adoring a “mother” figure, rejecting her upon inevitable failure, and then engaging with an “anti-mother” who embodies destructiveness and self-punishment. Ultimately, this cycle perpetuates the narcissist’s pursuit of redemption, absolution, and transcendence through repeated relational patterns.

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12.10.2025

First AI: Narcissists, Psychopaths (2014 Lecture) (Vaknin Narcissism Summaries)

The video explored the concept of artificial intelligence, emphasizing machines convincing humans they are human and raising philosophical questions about empathy and the nature of humanity. It delved into the psychological traits of narcissists and psychopaths, highlighting their lack of empathy, objectification of others, and the impact on human interaction and communication. The conversation concluded with reflections on collective mental health issues and the perceived divide between psychology and psychiatry within the scientific community.

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12.10.2025

How Your Partner Infects You with Mental Illness (Nature vs. Nurture Debate)

The video explored the nature versus nurture debate in mental health, emphasizing how spousal correlation studies challenge the traditional genetic predisposition model by demonstrating that mental illnesses can be behaviorally and relationally contagious through long-term interpersonal relationships. Large-scale research across cultures reveals that partners tend to develop similar psychiatric conditions over time, suggesting environmental factors and contagion play a significant role in determining the specific type of mental illness. The discussion highlighted that while genetics may influence general vulnerability to mental illness, the particular disorders one develops are primarily shaped by the environment and intimate relationships.

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11.10.2025
Mental Illness

Spousal Correlation of Mental Illness (EXCERPT)

The discussion focused on assortative mating, where individuals tend to select partners with similar mental health predispositions, leading to couples sharing comparable psychiatric conditions. It was highlighted that while genetics determine the general susceptibility to mental illness, the specific type of mental disorder developed is influenced by the partner and the environment, demonstrating a contagion effect. This insight challenges the notion of fixed genetic inheritance for specific mental illnesses, emphasizing the role of interpersonal dynamics in the development of psychiatric conditions.

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09.10.2025

Cesspool Covert Narcissist: From Victimhood to Sadism (Vaknin Narcissism Summaries YouTube Channel)

The meeting explored the characteristics of covert narcissism, emphasizing traits such as envy, pseudo humility, victimhood, and an extensive fantasy life used to compensate for real-life ineffectiveness. It highlighted the sadistic component of narcissism, particularly how covert narcissists use passive-aggressive tactics to exert power and inflict pain while avoiding direct confrontation. Additionally, research from Italy was discussed, linking sadism in narcissism to malicious envy and narcissistic rivalry, underscoring the complex interplay between control, anxiety, and deriving pleasure from others’ suffering.

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08.10.2025
Human Mind

LECTURE Extremes of the Human Mind: The Most Terrifying Place of All (MIT University, Skopje)

The meeting explored diverse psychological phenomena, highlighting the impact of cultural context on mental health diagnoses and treatment, and discussed rare disorders that challenge conventional understandings of reality. It examined the nature of empathy, solipsism, and the human mind, contrasting genuine human experience with artificial intelligence and psychopathy, emphasizing the limitations and philosophical challenges within modern psychology. The speaker critiqued contemporary psychology’s reliance on quantifiable methods and machines, advocating for a return to philosophical rigor and a deeper focus on the human mind as central to psychological study.

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08.10.2025

Narcissist: When Defenses Crumble, Shame Overwhelms: Narcissistic Mortification, Pt. 2 (Compilation)

In this comprehensive discussion, Sam Vaknin explains narcissistic motification as a severe psychological event distinct from narcissistic injury, characterized by public humiliation that dismantles the narcissist’s defenses and leads to profound shame, grief, and potential suicidal ideation. He describes the stages following motification, including internal and external attributions of blame, and how these affect the narcissist’s behavior, often resulting in vindictive actions to restore grandiosity. Additionally, Vaknin explores the dynamics of narcissistic relationships, highlighting key behaviors such as hoovering, approach-avoidance cycles, and the complex interplay of intimacy, control, and abandonment within shared fantasies.

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08.10.2025

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