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Why Narcissist Couldn’t Care Less About YOU: Cancel Reflex, Romantic Distancing

In this video, the speaker explored the psychology of narcissists, describing their behavior as driven by a compulsive need for narcissistic supply, indifference, and contempt toward others, often manifesting in a “cancel reflex” that devalues and dismisses people as interchangeable objects. The discussion highlighted how narcissists lack emotional empathy, exhibit virulent envy, and engage in antagonistic relationships that often lead to emotional distancing, especially in intimate partnerships, where abandonment and infidelity may occur. Ultimately, the speaker emphasized that narcissists’ destructive patterns result in retribution and isolation, underscoring their immature mental state and the inevitable consequences of their behavior. Why Narcissist Couldn’t Care Less About YOU: Cancel Reflex, Romantic Distancing

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28.10.2025

Love Addiction: Craving Infatuation, Limerence

This video is focused on the concept of love addiction, describing it as a behavioral addiction characterized by excessive, fantasy-driven infatuation and dysregulated, unbounded behaviors often linked to codependency and personality disorders. Love addicts, predominantly women, seek the intense emotional rush of falling in love rather than genuine intimacy, leading to unhealthy relationships, compulsive behaviors, and emotional distress. Treatment is challenging, involving cognitive behavioral therapy and self-help groups, but remains limited due to the deep psychological needs and low self-awareness underlying the addiction. Love Addiction: Craving Infatuation, Limerence

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28.10.2025

Predatory Women (Compilation 1 of 2)

The video discussed the complex interplay between borderline personality disorder, psychopathy, narcissism, and histrionic personality disorder, emphasizing trauma and dissociation as underlying factors linking these disorders. It highlighted recent research challenging traditional gender biases and explored how these disorders manifest differently in men and women, including their behavioral traits, substance abuse tendencies, and responses to treatment. The discussion also underscored the need for a unified diagnostic approach focusing on dissociation and trauma to better understand and treat cluster B personality disorders. Predatory Women (Compilation 1 of 2)

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27.10.2025

Why Narcissist Devalues YOU (Hint: Wants YOU “Dead”) – Binary Narcissism

In this video, Sam Wagner explained that narcissists devalue intimate partners because they resist conforming to the narcissist’s rigid internalized “snapshot” and challenge their grandiosity, which threatens their sense of control and exacerbates their deep-seated existential emptiness. He detailed the complex internal dynamic of narcissists stuck between overt and covert states, where an internal “civil war” leads to simultaneous idealization and devaluation of others, with the overt part interacting with external sources for narcissistic supply while the covert part preemptively devalues those same sources to protect itself. This internal conflict results in confused and damaging relational patterns, uniquely constituting what Wagner terms “narcissistic abuse.”Why Narcissist Devalues YOU (Hint: Wants YOU “Dead”) – Binary Narcissism

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27.10.2025

Narcissist’s Missing Kali Mother

The video explored the complex, ambivalent relationship between individuals and their mothers, using the Hindu goddess Khali as a metaphor for the dual nature of motherhood—both nurturing and destructive, embodying death and rebirth. It emphasized the mother’s role in facilitating the child’s separation and individuation through a process of symbolic destruction and rebirth, crucial for personal growth and self-realization. The discussion also highlighted the evolution of Khali’s perception from a terrifying deity to a compassionate maternal figure, reflecting the psychological development of the child’s view of the mother. Narcissist’s Missing Kali Mother

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26.10.2025

Why Do You Fall for Narcissist’s “Lies”, “Gaslighting”? (Hindsight Bias, Illusory Truth Effect)

In this video, Sam Vaknin explained that narcissists and borderline individuals often confabulate—unconsciously fabricating memories to fill gaps caused by dissociation—rather than intentionally lying or manipulating like psychopaths. Confabulations serve as a defensive mechanism to maintain a sense of personal identity and continuity, and both the confabulators and their listeners tend to believe these narratives due to cognitive biases such as confirmation bias and the illusory truth effect. The meeting emphasized the crucial distinction between confabulation as a non-malicious coping strategy and deliberate lies or gaslighting used by psychopaths for manipulative purposes. Why Do You Fall for Narcissist’s “Lies”, “Gaslighting”? (Hindsight Bias, Illusory Truth Effect)

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26.10.2025

Victim or Narcissist? Tell Them Apart!

In this video, the speaker explained how to distinguish true victims from narcissists who falsely claim victimhood by highlighting key behaviors such as splitting, generalization, self-pity, and denial of responsibility. Narcissists often portray themselves as flawless victims, avoid accountability, and use victimhood manipulatively for personal gain, whereas real victims exhibit nuanced self-awareness and take responsibility for their circumstances. The speaker provided practical tests and signs to identify narcissistic victimhood, emphasizing the importance of critical evaluation in interactions. Victim or Narcissist? Tell Them Apart!

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26.10.2025

Narcissist’s Sex: Competition, Degrading Porn

In this video, Sam Vaknin explores the concept of sex as a competitive and autoerotic act in the world of narcissists, emphasizing that narcissistic sex is driven by performance anxiety, entitlement, and an overwhelming focus on self-gratification. He explains that narcissists view their partners as objects for validation and competition against past lovers and themselves, resulting in mechanistic, impersonal, and ultimately degrading sexual experiences. Despite the consensual nature of these encounters, the narcissist’s inability to engage in genuine intimacy leads to narcissistic injury and leaves partners feeling diminished and used. Narcissist’s Sex: Competition, Degrading Porn

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23.10.2025

Horrible Families Raise Horrible Adults (with Familias Horribles)

In this insightful podcast discussion, Professor Sam Vaknin delves into the complexities of narcissism, distinguishing between healthy narcissism and pathological narcissism, which arises from early childhood abuse and dysfunctional family dynamics, primarily influenced by the mother. He explains the roles of siblings in narcissistic families, different narcissist types, and the intricate psychological mechanisms like projective splitting and fantasy bonding that sustain narcissistic abuse. Vaknin also clarifies common misconceptions about narcissists versus psychopaths, the challenges of healing, and emphasizes the rarity of true narcissistic personality disorder amidst widespread misinformation. Horrible Families Raise Horrible Adults (with Familias Horribles)

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23.10.2025

How Narcissist Collapses Furiously

The speaker discussed the multifaceted nature of narcissistic collapse, emphasizing it arises not only from deficient narcissistic supply but also from the rejection of the narcissist’s shared fantasy by others, leading to feelings of injustice, anger, and potential self-destructive behaviors. The collapse can manifest as externalized aggression or internalized depression, with narcissists oscillating between seeking high-grade supply, self-supply, and rejecting low-grade or fake supply, often resulting in a vicious cycle of hostility and social alienation. Recovery from collapse involves resuscitating narcissistic supply and grandiosity, though repeated collapses increase anxiety, depression, and risk of borderline personality features or suicidal ideation, especially as narcissists age. How Narcissist Collapses Furiously

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23.10.2025

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