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Unforgiving Narcissist Hoovers to Revenge, Holds Grudges

The video focused on understanding the nature of narcissistic grudges, emphasizing that they are perpetual, fueled by the narcissist’s need to protect their grandiosity, and serve as a tool for control and relational management. It highlighted how narcissists perceive transgressions as moral injuries that are unforgivable, leading to vindictive behavior aimed at asserting dominance and retribution rather than genuine reconciliation. The discussion also underlined the psychological mechanisms behind narcissistic grudges, including their role in maintaining a victimhood narrative and preventing the narcissist from moving on. Unforgiving Narcissist Hoovers to Revenge, Holds Grudges

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08.11.2025

Predatory Women (Compilation 2 of 2)

The video provided an in-depth analysis of female psychopaths, distinguishing them from male psychopaths by their impulsivity, emotional dysregulation, and relational abuse within a chaotic, manipulative “crazymaking space” aimed at gaining power. It also explored borderline personality disorder, particularly focusing on splitting, self-destructive behaviors, and substance abuse as coping mechanisms linked to fears of abandonment and identity diffusion. Additionally, the discussion compared narcissistic and psychopathic sexual fantasies and behaviors, highlighting differences in motivations, manifestations, and the roles substance abuse plays in exacerbating dysfunctional patterns. Predatory Women (Compilation 2 of 2)

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07.11.2025

Smear Campaign: Turn Narcissist’s Flying Monkeys Against Him/Her

The speaker introduced the concept of “flying monkeys” as individuals manipulated by narcissists to carry out vindictive agendas such as smear campaigns against victims. They recommended strategies to turn these flying monkeys into double agents by feigning compliance or fear, feeding them disinformation mixed with truth, spying on the narcissist, and collecting evidence for future legal action. The overall aim is to subvert the narcissist’s control, expose their conspiracy, and protect oneself from reputation damage. Smear Campaign: Turn Narcissist’s Flying Monkeys Against Him/Her

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07.11.2025

Cheating, Triangulation in Sick Relationships: Power Play, Revenge, Entitlement

The video discussed cheating and triangulation in abusive and narcissistic relationships, highlighting how these behaviors serve as tools for power play, revenge, and emotional regulation rather than genuine infidelity or pursuit of new relationships. It explored the motivations behind cheating in obsessive, mutually harmful couples—such as restoring power balance, self-harm, and reaffirming negative self-images—and contrasted them with narcissists’ reasons, including seeking control, novelty, and affirming entitlement. The discussion emphasized the destructive cycle these behaviors perpetuate, the instrumentalization of third parties, and the difficulty in breaking free due to trauma bonding and complex emotional dynamics. Cheating, Triangulation in Sick Relationships: Power Play, Revenge, Entitlement

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06.11.2025

Is Covert Narcissism Rising Among Young?

The video discussed two major studies on narcissism trends among young people, highlighting the controversy and replication crisis in psychology, particularly concerning rising narcissism claims from a 2008 study compared to a 2025 global meta-analysis showing no increase or even a decline in overt narcissism. It emphasized that current research primarily focuses on overt narcissism, neglecting covert narcissism, which may be rising due to social and economic challenges faced by youth. The discussion concluded that further investigation into covert narcissism is crucial to fully understand narcissistic traits in younger generations. Is Covert Narcissism Rising Among Young?

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06.11.2025

Narcissist’s Fantasy Not About YOU, Psychopath’s Is (Collateral Victimhood)

In this video, San Vaknin clarified the distinction between narcissistic and psychopathic fantasies, emphasizing that narcissistic fantasies revolve around the narcissist’s grandiose self-concept and needs, while psychopathic fantasies focus on fulfilling the victim’s desires. He explained that narcissists are impaired in reality testing due to their reliance on delusional fantasies that combine factual elements inaccurately, leading to dissociation and self-supply defenses. The discussion highlighted that narcissists genuinely believe their fantasies and seek to induct others into these self-centered realities, contrasting with psychopaths who manipulate victims to achieve pragmatic goals. Narcissist’s Fantasy Not About YOU, Psychopath’s Is (Collateral Victimhood)

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05.11.2025

Watch This to Make Sense of the World

The speaker discussed the historical dominance of elites over politics and society, how the middle class was co-opted to control the masses, and the subsequent rise of mass movements challenging elite power. They highlighted the role of technology, such as the printing press and social media, in redistributing power to the masses, leading to populist movements and democratic participation, albeit within a system still largely controlled by elites. The pandemic further exposed systemic inequalities and elite control, prompting a call for individuals to resist manipulation and opt out of the societal rat race to reclaim personal agency. Watch This to Make Sense of the World

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05.11.2025

Date from Hell: Dating Narcissists and Psychopaths

In this video, Sam Vaknin discussed his personal experience with narcissistic personality disorder and his pioneering work in identifying and defining narcissism and related personality disorders. He explained the behaviors and psychological traits of narcissists and psychopaths, their impact on relationships, and the challenges victims face, emphasizing the prevalence of these disorders in various social settings. Vaknin also highlighted the importance of education to recognize narcissistic traits and recommended his book “Malignant Self-Love” as a valuable resource for understanding and coping with narcissistic abuse. Date from Hell: Dating Narcissists and Psychopaths

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04.11.2025

Narcissism: 3 Frenchmen Ask, Prof. Answers (with Antoine Peytavin and Friends)

In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discussed narcissism, its nature as a genetic trait, cultural phenomenon, and personality disorder, emphasizing its profound psychological and societal impacts. He explained the distinctions between overt and covert narcissism, the role of narcissistic supply, and the complexities of diagnosing and treating narcissistic personality disorder. Vaknin highlighted the challenges victims face in escaping narcissistic abuse, the misconceptions about therapy effectiveness, and the lasting effects on both narcissists and their victims. Narcissism: 3 Frenchmen Ask, Prof. Answers (with Antoine Peytavin and Friends)

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03.11.2025

Borderline’s Partner: Some Enter Healthy, Exit Mentally Ill (Starts 12:10)

The discussion focused on how individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) often transform their intimate partners, even mentally healthy ones, into narcissists through a dynamic of unstable internal and external object constancy. It was explained that borderlines struggle with maintaining stable internal representations of others, leading to chaotic behaviors and emotional dysregulation, which drives partners to withdraw and develop internal objects representing the borderline, mirroring narcissistic dynamics. This cyclical interaction produces mutual avoidance and approach behaviors, perpetuating a complex and destructive relationship pattern where both parties exhibit traits of narcissism and borderline pathology. Borderline’s Partner: Some Enter Healthy, Exit Mentally Ill (Starts 12:10)

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03.11.2025

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