Tag: Trauma Bonding

Abuse

Narcissistic Abuse: View from the Amazon (with Marcia Maia)

The meeting involved a detailed discussion on narcissism, its psychological impact, and distinctions from psychopathy and borderline personality disorder, emphasizing the deep trauma caused by narcissistic mothers. The speakers explored the unconscious dynamics of narcissistic abuse, the victim’s addiction to idealization phases, and the challenges of recognizing and healing from such abuse. Additionally, the conversation highlighted the complexity of narcissistic identity, the difficulty in differentiating it from related disorders, and the importance of alternative supportive models for affected children. Narcissistic Abuse: View from the Amazon (with Marcia Maia)

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Healing, Narcissism

Healing Narcissism: Cold Therapy Seminar, Part 2 (Purchase Entire Series), Vienna, May 2017

The video focused on the psychological concepts underlying narcissism, particularly the development of the false self as a protective mechanism in response to early childhood trauma and attachment issues with a nonresponsive caregiver. It emphasized that narcissism is a post-traumatic condition characterized by emotional dysregulation, dissociation, and identity fragmentation, and introduced “cold therapy,” a controversial approach involving controlled retraumatization in a hostile environment to help integrate the narcissistic personality. The discussion also addressed cultural differences in therapeutic approaches, the rising prevalence of narcissism in modern societies, and the importance of predictable caregiver responses in healthy child development. Healing Narcissism: Cold Therapy Seminar, Part 2 (Purchase Entire Series), Vienna, May 2017

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Not Trauma, Nor Bonding, But Addiction to Intermittent Reinforcement (“Hot and Cold” Mixed Signals)

Sam Vaknin clarified that “trauma bonding” is a misnomer, emphasizing that it is not related to trauma or bonding but is actually an addiction to intermittent reinforcement provided by an abuser’s fluctuating idealization and devaluation. He explained that this process addiction involves craving the abuser’s gaze, which idealizes and devalues the victim, creating a compulsive behavioral pattern similar to substance addiction. The discussion also defined key terms such as addiction, bonding, trauma, and intermittent reinforcement to highlight that trauma bonding is best understood as a behavioral addiction rather than a psychological trauma or genuine attachment.

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