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SECRET Reason Narcissist Devalues, Discards YOU

The speaker explores the complex behaviors of narcissists, particularly their tendencies to devalue, discard, and replace partners as a reenactment of unresolved childhood conflicts with their mothers. They explain how narcissists manipulate their partners mentally by internalizing and controlling their inner critic and ego functions, leading to emotional abuse that is more about the narcissist’s internal struggles than the victim. The discussion concludes by connecting the rise of narcissism to broader societal shifts from agricultural to urban living, and predicts even more adverse psychological effects with the advent of the metaverse and virtual realities.

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01.10.2025

10 Signs: YOU are Broken, Damaged, Scarred

Sam Vaknin discusses the psychological patterns and clinical features common among damaged and broken individuals, emphasizing the impacts of trauma, mistrust, emotional detachment, and difficulties with intimacy and boundaries. He highlights defense mechanisms such as hypervigilance, emotional numbness, conflict avoidance, perfectionism, and the harsh inner critic, explaining how these behaviors serve as survival strategies but ultimately hinder healthy relationships. Vaknin encourages therapy and self-awareness to overcome these patterns, promoting the acceptance of inherent self-worth independent of achievements or others’ approval. 10 Signs: YOU are Broken, Damaged, Scarred

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29.09.2025

Narcissism is So Hard to Believe! (with Yulia Kasprzhak, Clinician)

In-depth analysis of narcissistic personality disorder, emphasizing the distinction between narcissists, psychopaths, and borderlines, highlighting narcissists as delusional and psychotic with impaired reality testing and confabulation rather than manipulative liars. It discussed the complexities of narcissistic relationships, including “hoovering,” the dynamics of narcissistic abuse, and the detrimental impact on partners, advocating no contact as the only long-term solution. The session also touched on the challenges in treating narcissism, potential future medical advancements, and the interactions and conflicts between narcissists and psychopaths in relationships.

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29.09.2025

Your Therapist Ignores Your BODY At YOUR Peril (Vaknin Narcissism Summaries YouTube Channel)

The speaker discussed the complex relationship between psychological trauma, especially from narcissistic abuse, and the manifestation of somatic symptom and conversion disorders, emphasizing that these physical symptoms are genuine expressions of psychological distress rather than fabricated or purely neurological conditions. The talk also highlighted the diagnostic evolution from somatization and conversion disorders to somatic symptom and functional neurological symptom disorders, noting the importance of recognizing the psychological underpinnings often overlooked by medical professionals. Finally, the speaker introduced an upcoming seminar focused on evidence-based healing techniques for narcissistic abuse survivors and encouraged engagement for deeper understanding and recovery. Your Therapist Ignores Your BODY At YOUR Peril (Vaknin Narcissism Summaries YouTube Channel)

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27.09.2025

3 Ways to Manipulate Codependent People-pleasers (Clip: Vaknin Narcissism Summaries YouTube Channel)

The video discusses three manipulative steps to control people pleasers: clearly communicate expectations, show measured pleasure when expectations are met, and express profound disappointment when they fail. It then delves into the psychological dynamics of people pleasers, highlighting their core automatic thoughts such as believing their happiness comes at others’ expense, needing to earn happiness through hard work, having to bribe others for acceptance, and feeling compelled to compromise their own boundaries. These insights explain the internal struggles of people pleasers and those parentified in childhood, linking their behaviors to deep-seated beliefs and introjects from critical or absent parental figures. Vaknin Narcissism Summaries

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27.09.2025

Narcissist Talks AT You – Not TO You (Clip) (Vaknin Narcissism Summaries YouTube Channel)

The speaker explained that effective communication with narcissists involves focusing on the underlying motives behind their words rather than the content itself. They outlined four primary reasons narcissists communicate: to impress and manipulate others, to confabulate due to memory gaps, to support their grandiose self-image, and to exert control for personal gain. Ultimately, narcissistic communication is goal-oriented and weaponized to maintain their false self and influence others.

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26.09.2025

Anticipate and Preempt? Not Always Healthy!

Sam Vaknin, explores the role of contempt in narcissism as a preemptive defense mechanism that protects narcissists from emotional injury by devaluing others, thus ensuring their emotional invulnerability. He also discusses how anticipatory behaviors, such as preemptive abandonment and reaction formation, stem from anxiety and fear of negative outcomes, often leading to self-fulfilling prophecies that bring about the very disasters individuals seek to avoid. Lastly, he highlights how anticipation and catastrophizing can constrict and limit life, causing psychological harm by fostering behaviors that inadvertently realize feared outcomes.

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25.09.2025

How AI Psychosis will Drive Us All Insane: Confirmation Bias, Crowdsourced Echo Chamber Chatbots

Critical view of generative artificial intelligence, particularly chatbots like ChatGPT, arguing that they operate on confirmation bias and create echo chambers that can exacerbate users’ mental health issues, including psychosis and delusions. They highlighted that AI chatbots often provide incorrect, suggestible, and biased information, reinforcing users’ existing beliefs and potentially triggering severe psychotic episodes, especially in vulnerable individuals. The speaker stressed the lack of regulation and research on “AI psychosis,” warning of the significant psychological risks posed by these technologies in the absence of counterbalancing human interaction.

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23.09.2025

How Narcissist Infects YOU with a FALSE SELF

The meeting discussed the concept of pathological narcissism as a contagious condition where victims exposed to narcissistic abuse gradually adopt narcissistic traits through developing a transient false self as a defense and coping mechanism. This false self serves as both an imaginary protector and a placating object to navigate the abuser’s unpredictable and manipulative behaviors, undermining the victim’s true self and secure attachment. The speaker emphasized the importance of recognizing this dynamic and advocated for no contact with narcissists as essential for psychological survival and recovery.

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22.09.2025

Narcissism at Its Best (Trailer of Documentary by Peter Kolakowski)

The speaker expressed a strong critical view of the creators of modern technology, particularly social media and artificial intelligence, labeling them as mentally ill and motivated by rejecting reality. They argued that social media platforms are designed to isolate individuals by reducing intimacy and exploiting loneliness for profit, employing psychological tactics to keep users engaged and disconnected from real-life relationships. The discussion highlighted concerns about the negative social impact of tech companies driven by profit at the expense of human connection. Narcissism.

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21.09.2025

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