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Get Parasite Narcissist Out of Your Colonized Mind

The video detailed the psychological mechanisms narcissists use to control and manipulate victims, including shared fantasy, dissociative states, and brainwave entrainment, which lead to the victim’s mind being hijacked and emotions and thoughts becoming artifacts of the abuser. It highlighted the profound effects of abuse on memory, identity, and self-regulation, explaining how trauma bonding and prolonged grief disorder perpetuate suffering even after the abuse ends. The discussion emphasized the necessity of memory recovery, differentiation of authentic self from implanted interjects, and individuation as critical steps toward healing and reclaiming one’s identity. Get Parasite Narcissist Out of Your Colonized Mind

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17.11.2025
Healing, Narcissism

Healing Narcissism: Cold Therapy Seminar, Part 2 (Purchase Entire Series), Vienna, May 2017

The video focused on the psychological concepts underlying narcissism, particularly the development of the false self as a protective mechanism in response to early childhood trauma and attachment issues with a nonresponsive caregiver. It emphasized that narcissism is a post-traumatic condition characterized by emotional dysregulation, dissociation, and identity fragmentation, and introduced “cold therapy,” a controversial approach involving controlled retraumatization in a hostile environment to help integrate the narcissistic personality. The discussion also addressed cultural differences in therapeutic approaches, the rising prevalence of narcissism in modern societies, and the importance of predictable caregiver responses in healthy child development. Healing Narcissism: Cold Therapy Seminar, Part 2 (Purchase Entire Series), Vienna, May 2017

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15.11.2025

Sick Society Makes YOU Sick (Loneliness Industry Podcast)

The podcast episode featured an in-depth conversation with Sam Vaknin on the psychological cycle of narcissism, exploring the transition between covert and overt narcissistic states and their societal implications. They examined the pathological nature of Western spiritualism, magical thinking, and collective delusions as coping mechanisms for vulnerability and disempowerment. The discussion also critiqued contemporary psychology’s limitations, the social control embedded in mental health diagnoses, and the impact of atomization and fear-driven conformity on individual autonomy and empathy. Sick Society Makes YOU Sick (Loneliness Industry Podcast)

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15.11.2025
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When Narcissist Reminds You of Someone: Narcissistic Transferences (Idealizing, Mirror, Twinship)

The video discussed the psychological concept of transference, particularly focusing on narcissistic transference as explained through psychoanalysis and self psychology. It detailed how individuals project unresolved childhood dynamics onto others, creating expectations that these new relationships fulfill past unmet needs, often leading to distorted perceptions and dysfunctional interactions. The speaker emphasized the therapeutic importance of recognizing and working through transference and counter-transference to improve self-awareness and relational functioning, especially in narcissistic relationships. When Narcissist Reminds You of Someone: Narcissistic Transferences (Idealizing, Mirror, Twinship)

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15.11.2025
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Lovebombing to Discard: 5 Energies of Narcissist’s Cathexis Cycle

The video discussed the emotional investment cycle of narcissists, highlighting their characteristic oscillation between intense emotional involvement and complete withdrawal, termed “splitting cathexis.” It explained how narcissists engage in a shared fantasy with others involving stages of idealization, devaluation, discard, and replacement, driven by psychic energy allocation to internal objects rather than genuine external attachments. The presenter emphasized that narcissistic behaviors are governed by unconscious energy management, with transitions between relationships following specific psychological rules rather than randomness. Lovebombing to Discard: 5 Energies of Narcissist’s Cathexis Cycle

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15.11.2025
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Sadistic Envy: Pleasure of Destroying Your Betters (Narcissism Summaries Clip)

The video discussed the role of malicious envy as a central characteristic of covert narcissism, highlighting its connection to sadism through the desire to exert power and control over others. It differentiated between grandiose and vulnerable narcissism, emphasizing how both types derive pleasure from dominance and the pain of others, with covert narcissists being more emotionally dysregulated and reliant on controlling others. The discussion concluded that malicious envy and narcissistic rivalry underpin aggressive behaviors that reinforce the narcissist’s grandiose self-image, often leading to destructive outcomes. Sadistic Envy: Pleasure of Destroying Your Betters (Narcissism Summaries Clip)

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13.11.2025
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Silence, Guilt After Narcissist’s Discard (Narcissism Summaries Clip)

The video explored the concept of survivor guilt experienced by those who leave or are discarded by narcissists, emphasizing the complex emotions tied to abandoning a narcissistic partner perceived as a vulnerable child. It highlighted the distorted nature of the narcissist’s identity and the shared fantasy in the relationship, explaining that survival requires rejecting a manipulative, illusory narrative rather than a genuine person. Ultimately, it encouraged survivors to recognize they have not truly abandoned a real individual but a harmful fantasy, urging them to prioritize their own well-being and self-preservation. Silence, Guilt After Narcissist’s Discard (Narcissism Summaries Clip)

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13.11.2025
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Reality as Narcissistic Injury (Grandiosity Gap)

The speaker discussed the inherent contradiction in psychology and self-help between expanding oneself through exploration and the simultaneous societal demand for self-control and limitation. This paradox is pronounced in pathological narcissism, where individuals reject the constraining reality in favor of an inflated, fantastical self-concept, resulting in a persistent conflict between reality and fantasy. The narcissist’s refusal to accept reality leads to narcissistic injury, rage, and abuse, ultimately causing emotional dysregulation and the formation of a false self disconnected from true reality. Reality as Narcissistic Injury (Grandiosity Gap)

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13.11.2025
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Narcissistic Abuse: Un-Shadow Your Life, Mind (with Sara Martinez, Vine Sisters)

In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discussed the complexities of narcissistic and covert abuse, emphasizing how victims are often trapped in a distorted reality due to the abuser’s manipulative behaviors like gaslighting and intermittent reinforcement. He highlighted the long-term psychological and physiological impacts on survivors, including identity loss, addiction to idealization, and challenges in trusting others, while assuring that recovery is possible with patience and support. Additionally, Professor Vaknin addressed broader societal parallels of abuse, decoding the manipulative tactics of narcissists as well as misconceptions about narcissism, its origins, and the difficulties in healing or changing the abuser. Narcissistic Abuse

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13.11.2025

Borderline’s Mating Strategies, Aggression Mismanaged

The video is focused on the mating strategies and aggression patterns of Cluster B personality disorders, particularly borderline personality disorder (BPD), highlighting their self-defeating behaviors and difficulty in managing aggression. It explained how borderline individuals use manipulative tactics in relationships, struggle with approach-avoidance dynamics due to misdirected aggression, and internalize their anger leading to self-destructive behaviors. The discussion emphasized the need for Cluster B patients to learn healthy externalization and sublimation of aggression through therapy and socially acceptable outlets. Borderline’s Mating Strategies, Aggression Mismanaged

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10.11.2025

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