The video discusses three manipulative steps to control people pleasers: clearly communicate expectations, show measured pleasure when expectations are met, and express profound disappointment when they fail. It then delves into the psychological dynamics of people pleasers, highlighting their core automatic thoughts such as believing their happiness comes at others’ expense, needing to earn happiness through hard work, having to bribe others for acceptance, and feeling compelled to compromise their own boundaries. These insights explain the internal struggles of people pleasers and those parentified in childhood, linking their behaviors to deep-seated beliefs and introjects from critical or absent parental figures. Vaknin Narcissism Summaries