Professor Sam Vaknin discussed the distinction between legitimate no-contact as a response to abuse and estrangement driven by narcissism, atomization, and hypervigilance, arguing that many who cut family ties for minor disagreements are enacting a form of externalized aggression. He explained how projected splitting, projection, and projective identification in dysfunctional parents create the golden child and scapegoat roles, which often persist into adulthood and shape sibling dynamics and identity. Vaknin recommended reconstruction and integration over permanent estrangement—advocating empathy, realistic understanding of parental limitations, and reconciliation where possible, while acknowledging exceptions for genuine abuse. No Contact with NON-abusive Parents, Family? (The Nerve with Maureen Callahan)