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Sudden Insight, Psychopathic Narcissists & Why Narcissists Manipulate Their Children | LIVE Q&A

The speaker discussed how sudden emergence of memories and insights can be destabilizing and must be handled carefully in therapy to avoid overwhelming or retraumatizing patients, noting shifts away from debriefing to safer, structured approaches. He distinguished narcissism from psychopathy, explaining that goal-oriented, power-seeking, fearless individuals who pursue money and status are more characteristic of primary psychopathy than narcissistic personality disorder. He described narcissists as emotionally shallow and manipulative, using simulated closeness to extract narcissistic supply and treating children instrumentally, praising younger children while coercively controlling older ones who resist. Sudden Insight, Psychopathic Narcissists & Why Narcissists Manipulate Their Children | LIVE Q&A

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11.01.2026

How Narcissist Baits You to Become His/her Mother (Skopje Seminar Day 2 Opening, May 2025)

The speaker reviewed multiple models of narcissism—sociosexuality, the agency model, and the dominant psychodynamic/psychonamic synthesis—highlighting core traits such as grandiosity, entitlement, approach orientation, compulsivity, and repetition compulsion. He explained developmental origins (early childhood abuse or over-spoiling), introduced the “shared fantasy” mechanism and its staged dynamics (spotting, auditioning, baiting, co-idealization, love-bombing, the hall-of-mirrors, the dual-mothership bond, and eventual devaluation) that produce intense, co-dependent mother–child style attachments. The talk emphasized narcissistic relationships as compulsive reenactments that test and abuse partners to confirm ‘motherhood,’ leading to profound grief on separation and limited capacity for learning or lasting individuation. How Narcissist Baits You to Become His/her Mother (Skopje Seminar Day 2 Opening, May 2025)

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09.01.2026

4Ss Narcissists: Your Weakness=Their Strength, Your Resilience=Their Sadistic Self-destruction

Sam Vaknin explains how narcissists seek out and maintain relationships with people who are weak, dependent, or ill because such vulnerability reduces the narcissist’s abandonment anxiety and provides steady narcissistic supply. Narcissists systematically undermine partners’ autonomy—isolating, infantilizing, and controlling them—to secure dominance, then punish resistance by escalation, withdrawal, or self-destructive acts intended to inflict guilt. The talk emphasizes that the narcissist’s contradictory demands (wanting both a dependent ‘child’ and a strong ‘mother’) make the dynamic impossible to satisfy and show that the problem lies within the narcissist, not the partner. 4Ss Narcissists: Your Weakness=Their Strength, Your Resilience=Their Sadistic Self-destruction

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21.12.2025

On Narcissists and Narcissism (Sam Vaknin on Exist Real in NAVSOS, Worthing UK)

Sal Vaknin discusses his book Malignant Self-Love and his decades of work on narcissism, describing narcissistic personality structure, origins, behaviors (idealization/devaluation cycle, need for narcissistic supply), and differences between healthy and pathological narcissism. He explains causes including abuse and possible genetic predisposition, clinical features (false self, lack of empathy, external locus of control), strategies for victims (no contact, depersonalize interactions, withhold/provide supply), and societal trends toward increasing and legitimizing narcissism aided by technology and social incentives. He outlines diagnostic distinctions (narcissistic vs. malignant narcissist, antisocial/psychopathy), gendered manifestations, warning signs to spot narcissists, and the challenges of research and public misunderstanding. On Narcissists and Narcissism (Sam Vaknin on Exist Real in NAVSOS, Worthing UK)

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09.12.2025

Borderline: Narcissist’s Mirror (and Avoidant Personality Disorder)

Sam Vaknin argues that borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mirror image of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD): whereas narcissists defend against the threat of others’ presence by internalizing and “snapshotting” them, borderlines defend against absence by merging and outsourcing psychological functions to others. Although BPD and NPD can appear behaviorally similar—withdrawal, devaluation, cycles of idealization and discard, and comorbidity with avoidant and other personality disorders—their underlying dynamics differ (narcissists seek separation from external objects into internal introjects; borderlines fear abandonment and engulfment, leading to approach-avoidance repetition compulsion). Vaknin also distinguishes avoidant personality disorder as a related but narrower condition characterized mainly by chronic avoidance driven by rejection sensitivity and low self-worth, and illustrates these differences with clinical examples. Borderline: Narcissist’s Mirror (and Avoidant Personality Disorder)

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28.11.2025

Why Narcissists MUST Abuse YOU (Skopje Seminar Opening, May 2025)

The seminar, organized by the Vaknin Vangelovska Foundation, provided an in-depth, research-based exploration of pathological narcissism, its impact on victims, and the complex dynamics of the shared fantasy between narcissists and those they manipulate. Key topics included the distinction between narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic style, the contagious nature of narcissism, and the profound psychological damage inflicted on victims, including epistemic injury and identity estrangement. The speaker also addressed misconceptions about narcissism, such as the myth of victim selection and the nature of narcissistic sexuality, promising further detailed discussions in subsequent sessions on coping, recovery, and healing. Why Narcissists MUST Abuse YOU (Skopje Seminar Opening, May 2025)

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20.11.2025

How Narcissists Betray You to Protect Their False Self (Narcissism Summaries YouTube Channel)

The video explored the dynamics of the narcissist mind, focusing on the stages of shared fantasy, starting with co-idealization where the narcissist idealizes and internalizes an idealized image of their partner, known as the introject. It described the second stage, dual mothership, where the narcissist transforms their partner into a maternal figure to recreate a childhood dynamic, offering and seeking unconditional love to compensate for the narcissist’s unresolved relationship with their own emotionally absent mother. The discussion emphasized the psychological mechanisms the narcissist uses to merge with idealized objects to acquire perceived perfection and the emotional complexity underpinning the narcissistic need for maternal substitution. Narcissism Summaries YouTube Channel.

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20.11.2025

Narcissists Never Criticize: They Vanish YOU Instead

In the video titled “Narcissists Never Criticize,” the speaker explained that narcissists do not genuinely criticize others because they cannot perceive others as separate external entities. Instead, narcissists project and interact only with internalized representations, making any apparent criticism a reflection of their own internal conflicts rather than an attempt to change the external person. Consequently, narcissistic “criticism” is subjective, delusional, and devoid of constructive intent. Narcissists Never Criticize: They Vanish YOU Instead

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20.11.2025

Date from Hell: Dating Narcissists and Psychopaths

In this video, Sam Vaknin discussed his personal experience with narcissistic personality disorder and his pioneering work in identifying and defining narcissism and related personality disorders. He explained the behaviors and psychological traits of narcissists and psychopaths, their impact on relationships, and the challenges victims face, emphasizing the prevalence of these disorders in various social settings. Vaknin also highlighted the importance of education to recognize narcissistic traits and recommended his book “Malignant Self-Love” as a valuable resource for understanding and coping with narcissistic abuse. Date from Hell: Dating Narcissists and Psychopaths

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04.11.2025

Borderline’s Partner: Some Enter Healthy, Exit Mentally Ill (Starts 12:10)

The discussion focused on how individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) often transform their intimate partners, even mentally healthy ones, into narcissists through a dynamic of unstable internal and external object constancy. It was explained that borderlines struggle with maintaining stable internal representations of others, leading to chaotic behaviors and emotional dysregulation, which drives partners to withdraw and develop internal objects representing the borderline, mirroring narcissistic dynamics. This cyclical interaction produces mutual avoidance and approach behaviors, perpetuating a complex and destructive relationship pattern where both parties exhibit traits of narcissism and borderline pathology. Borderline’s Partner: Some Enter Healthy, Exit Mentally Ill (Starts 12:10)

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03.11.2025

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