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Narcissist’s Contempt for You: Shame Projected

The speaker explained that narcissists harbor profound contempt toward others as a projection of their own shame, which stems from a deep-rooted sense of helplessness caused by trauma and abuse. This contempt allows narcissists to avoid embracing shame, thereby maintaining a false sense of moral and intellectual superiority while remaining stuck in a victim mentality. Additionally, the speaker differentiated contempt from grandiosity in narcissism, highlighting that grandiosity can be motivational and linked to uniqueness, whereas contempt is an attitudinal defense mechanism projecting perceived inferiority onto others.

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16.06.2025

Narcissist: YOUR Colleague, Co-worker, Employee

The speaker discussed the challenges posed by narcissistic employees in hierarchical workplaces, emphasizing their disruptive behaviors such as bullying, conspiracy, subversion, and manipulation to restore their damaged self-image. These employees undermine teamwork, foster toxic corporate cultures through deception, entitlement, and unethical shortcuts, ultimately causing organizational decay and conflict. The speaker strongly advised immediate dismissal of narcissistic employees to prevent widespread contamination and protect the work environment.

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31.08.2023

When YOU Discard the Narcissist FIRST

Sam Vaknin explained the psychological effects on a narcissist when they are discarded by a partner before they have the chance to devalue and discard the other person, highlighting the resulting narcissistic injury or mortification. He detailed the narcissist’s subsequent reactions, including emotional dysregulation, abandonment anxiety, dissociation, and often coercive efforts to restore the shared fantasy through hoovering or replacement relationships. The discussion emphasized the narcissist’s internal struggle with self-image, grief over the lost relationship, and the repetitive cycle of idealization, devaluation, and discard with new partners.

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18.08.2023

Covert Narcissist’s Abuse=Coercive Control?

Focused on distinguishing covert narcissistic abuse from typical narcissistic abuse and emphasized the manipulative, passive-aggressive, and somatic nature of covert narcissists who often use networks of allies to harm their targets. It clarified the concept of coercive control, highlighting it as a rare, premeditated, and criminal behavior involving terror, social isolation, invasive monitoring, deprivation of basic needs, and total control within long-term intimate relationships. The discussion stressed that coercive control differs significantly from narcissistic abuse, being a calculated strategy primarily associated with psychopaths, and should be recognized and fought against accordingly.

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21.07.2023
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Covert Narcissist’s Sadistic Envy Fantasy (conference presentation)

The intricate relationship between covert narcissism, malicious envy, and sadistic behavior, emphasizing how covert narcissists harbor a deep wish to destroy those they envy due to feelings of inferiority and rivalry. It highlighted findings from a recent Italian study linking grandiose narcissism, narcissistic rivalry, and malicious envy with sadism, illustrating how these traits drive the desire to inflict pain and regain control. The conversation underscored that sadism in narcissism is fundamentally about power and control, often masked by fantasies and pseudo-morality, with covert narcissists exhibiting particularly pronounced passive-aggressive sadistic tendencies.

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25.06.2023

How Narcissist Betrays YOU to Become Himself (Compilation)

The speaker presents an integrated conceptual framework based on the theory of shared fantasy to explain the complex, contradictory behaviors of narcissists in intimate relationships, detailing stages such as idealization, dual mothership, mental discard, and the challenges associated with discarding internalized images of partners. The framework highlights the narcissist’s struggle with separation anxiety, narcissistic injury, and the cyclical process of devaluation and re-idealization, which ultimately prevent true separation from their partners and perpetuate repetitive harmful dynamics. The only exception occurs when the narcissist undergoes a profound psychological transformation called modification, allowing them to reconstruct their identity and escape this cycle.

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03.03.2023

Push Narcissist’s 4 Secret Buttons (Starts 07:50): “Gamma Man” or Agent of Chaos, Madness?

The speaker analyzed the four secret buttons of narcissists—precocious child, conquering hero, father guru, and divinity—that govern their behavior and interpersonal dynamics, explaining ways to either maintain or dismantle the narcissistic shared fantasy. The discussion emphasized the complexity and spectrum of narcissistic personality disorder, highlighting its pervasive influence on cognition, emotion, and relationships, and introduced the concept of gamma males as a subset related to schizoid cerebral narcissism. The speaker also explored the chaos narcissists bring by forcing constant self-reflection and disruption, underpinning their role as agents of madness and disorder in social interactions.

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15.08.2021

Covert Borderline, Classic Borderline – Psychopaths?

The speaker introduced the concept of covert borderline personality disorder, distinguishing it from classic and quiet borderline types by its unique traits, particularly its prevalence in males and its confusion with covert narcissism and psychopathy. The discussion included a detailed comparison of covert borderline and classic borderline personalities across identity, emotional regulation, interpersonal relationships, cognitive style, and social functioning, referencing DSM-5 criteria and emphasizing the covert type’s distinct emotional and behavioral patterns. The speaker concluded by highlighting the covert borderline’s pursuit of love and acceptance, contrasting with the classic borderline’s emotional instability and identity diffusion, and suggested future videos to elaborate on this proposed diagnosis. Covert Borderline, Classic Borderline – Psychopaths?

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16.06.2020

Victim of Narcissist: Move On!

Summary: Understanding and Coping with Narcissists 1. The Narcissist’s Inner World and Grandiosity Gap The narcissist lives in a fantasized world of ideal beauty, achievements,

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04.04.2011

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