Tag: Loneliness

Being Alone is Normal, Socializing is Coercive (Loneliness Industry Podcast)

Professor Sam Vaknin discussed how human loneliness, being alone is an inherent condition stemming from the existential trauma of separateness experienced through the gaze of others, with modern technology enabling a choice to embrace isolation via artificial interactions like social media. He emphasized that this technological shift is intentional and systematically discourages genuine intimacy, leading to widespread societal atomization, and that individuals differ in their ability to create and maintain fantasy as a coping mechanism to manage this solitude. The conversation also explored the psychological impacts of narcissism and fantasy on human connection, highlighting the complex interplay between personal choice, societal structures, and technological influences on loneliness and social detachment.

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(Part 2) 10 Ways Narcissist Distorts Your Worldview (EXCERPT Skopje Seminar, 2025)

The speaker discussed how narcissists manipulate others by creating a shared fantasy that isolates victims from reality and social connections, undermining their self-worth and trust in themselves. This manipulation involves projective identification where the narcissist projects their internalized negative traits onto the victim, leading to feelings of unlovability and existential loneliness. The speaker also touched on the differences between narcissism and psychosis, and introduced the concept of malignant narcissists who combine narcissism with psychopathy and sadism, emphasizing the complex psychological impact on victims.

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How Technologies Profit from Your Loneliness, Encourage It

The discussion emphasized the critical role of healthy narcissism as a foundational element of mental health, distinguishing it from pathological narcissism and highlighting its genetic basis. It was proposed that mental health should be measured not only by ego-syntonic happiness and functionality but also by a third criterion: reality testing, which is often overlooked due to political and social sensitivities surrounding religion and shared fantasies. The conversation also addressed the complexities of defining normality and health within cultural and societal contexts, advocating for integrating reality testing to more accurately assess both individual and collective mental health. Technologies Profit

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