Tag: Idealization Phase

Narcissist: It’s Not About You! It’s the Fantasy! (Hierarchy of Introjects)

Understanding narcissism requires recognizing that the narcissist’s emotional world revolves around fantasies rather than real interpersonal relationships. The idealization you experience is selective and serves to elevate the narcissist’s own self-image. Similarly, introjected images of others are tools within these fantasies, lacking genuine emotional attachment.
For those involved with narcissists, this insight can clarify the confusing dynamics of validation, idealization, and emotional detachment. Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward establishing boundaries, protecting self-esteem, and fostering healthier relationships. Narcissist: It’s Not About You! It’s the Fantasy! (Hierarchy of Introjects)

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Solastalgia: Healing Shared Fantasy, Narcissistic Abuse

Sam Vaknin detailed the concept of narcissistic abuse as creating a dystopian, alienating environment that sets victims up for failure and emotional distress, coining the term “solstalgia” to describe the unique psychological pain caused by such oppressive environments. He related solstalgia, originally defined as distress from environmental changes, to the toxic psychosocial dynamics within narcissistic relationships, emphasizing its impact on mental health and the potential for therapeutic intervention. The discussion highlighted recent research on solstalgia’s links to complex trauma and proposed expanding its application beyond environmental issues to better understand and treat victims of narcissistic abuse.

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