The speaker discussed the complex role of shame, guilt, and remorse in abusive behaviors, particularly in individuals with personality disorders such as narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, and psychopathic types. While these emotions typically inhibit misconduct, in certain disordered personalities they paradoxically trigger externalized aggression through mechanisms like aloplastic defenses, effective matching, and reaction formation. The talk highlighted how these negative feelings can fuel abuse by shifting blame, justifying harmful behavior, or projecting emotions onto others. When Shame, Guilt, Remorse Drive Abuse (Alloplastic Defenses, Reaction Formation, Affect Matching)