Tag: Avoidant Personality Disorder

Borderline: Narcissist’s Mirror (and Avoidant Personality Disorder)

Sam Vaknin argues that borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mirror image of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD): whereas narcissists defend against the threat of others’ presence by internalizing and “snapshotting” them, borderlines defend against absence by merging and outsourcing psychological functions to others. Although BPD and NPD can appear behaviorally similar—withdrawal, devaluation, cycles of idealization and discard, and comorbidity with avoidant and other personality disorders—their underlying dynamics differ (narcissists seek separation from external objects into internal introjects; borderlines fear abandonment and engulfment, leading to approach-avoidance repetition compulsion). Vaknin also distinguishes avoidant personality disorder as a related but narrower condition characterized mainly by chronic avoidance driven by rejection sensitivity and low self-worth, and illustrates these differences with clinical examples. Borderline: Narcissist’s Mirror (and Avoidant Personality Disorder)

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Borderline: Narcissist’s Mirror (and Avoidant Personality Disorder)

In this video, the speaker explored the psychodynamic relationship between borderline personality disorder (BPD) and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), proposing that BPD is a mirror image of narcissism, with distinct but parallel mechanisms of control and anxiety relating to presence and absence in relationships. The discussion included differences in how both disorders manage intimacy, separation, and devaluation, as well as their avoidant and schizoid phases, contrasted with avoidant personality disorder (AvPD), which shares some symptoms but differs fundamentally in causes and behavioral responses. The speaker also illustrated avoidant personality disorder with a clinical example, emphasizing its common misdiagnosis due to overlapping traits with BPD and NPD despite distinct psychodynamic foundations.

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