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Narcissist and Attention: It’s Complicated

In this video, the speaker explored the concept of attention, identifying three types: synoptic, targeted, and inclusive, with narcissists predominantly exhibiting a hyperfocused, targeted attention to secure narcissistic supply. The narcissist’s attention is narrowly constricted, disregarding any information irrelevant to maintaining their grandiose self-image, often resulting in an impaired ability to perceive broader consequences or social cues. Consequently, narcissists operate with a binary, one-track mindset, prioritizing attention solely for self-regulation and neglecting other meaningful stimuli or insights. Narcissist and Attention: It’s Complicated

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20.10.2025

When Shame, Guilt, Remorse Drive Abuse (Alloplastic Defenses, Reaction Formation, Affect Matching)

The speaker discussed the complex role of shame, guilt, and remorse in abusive behaviors, particularly in individuals with personality disorders such as narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, and psychopathic types. While these emotions typically inhibit misconduct, in certain disordered personalities they paradoxically trigger externalized aggression through mechanisms like aloplastic defenses, effective matching, and reaction formation. The talk highlighted how these negative feelings can fuel abuse by shifting blame, justifying harmful behavior, or projecting emotions onto others. When Shame, Guilt, Remorse Drive Abuse (Alloplastic Defenses, Reaction Formation, Affect Matching)

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20.10.2025

Wikipedia: Narcissistic Cult, Cabal EXPOSED

The speaker critically analyzed Wikipedia, labeling it a large-scale narcissistic cult rather than a reliable encyclopedia, highlighting issues such as anonymity of editors, lack of gatekeeping, rampant misinformation, and editorial chaos. The discussion emphasized Wikipedia’s structural flaws, including its anti-elitist stance, editorial instability, copyright violations, and failure to uphold academic standards compared to traditional encyclopedias like Britannica. Ultimately, the speaker called for greater accountability and transparency within Wikipedia, arguing it should not be legally shielded given its edited and biased nature.

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19.10.2025

Psychopathic Female in Your Life

The video is focused on the distinct characteristics of female psychopaths, who differ from male psychopaths by displaying impulsivity, emotional dysregulation, and complex interpersonal manipulation within a chaotic “crazymaking space.” Female psychopaths use charm, vulnerability, and covert tactics to exert power, control, and manipulate others, often creating a theater-like environment where victims are mere props in their antisocial dramas. Despite occasional flashes of empathy, their actions are driven by self-actualization through victimization, making them particularly insidious and dangerous due to societal stereotypes that underestimate their threat. Psychopathic Female.

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17.10.2025

Overt+Covert Narcissist in One Person: Self-supply (44:17), Binary Narcissism

The speaker discusses the concept of a system of residuals in narcissism, where two distinct narcissistic self-states—overt and covert—can coexist simultaneously within one individual, leading to internal conflict and dissonance. This binary system arises when neither state is effective alone, resulting in self-supply dynamics through mutual hostility and fantasy defenses. The speaker suggests that this state, while challenging, presents a unique therapeutic opportunity to induce vulnerability and promote healing through educational and empathetic interventions. Overt+Covert Narcissist in One Person: Self-supply (44:17), Binary Narcissism

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17.10.2025

(GERMAN) Do Social Media Trigger Narcissism? (Südwestrundfunk SWR.de)

In der Besprechung wurde das Thema der narzisstischen Auswirkungen sozialer Medien auf Jugendliche diskutiert, insbesondere wie Plattformen wie Instagram und TikTok Selbstbezogenheit und Isolation fördern. Psychologen betonten, dass die ständige Suche nach Aufmerksamkeit und Likes ein fragiles Selbstbild kaschiert und dass soziale Medien menschliche Nähe und reale Beziehungen gefährden. Es wurde empfohlen, sich bewusst mit den eigenen Werten und Zielen auseinanderzusetzen, um der Oberflächlichkeit und Suchtpotenzial entgegenzuwirken. (GERMAN) Do Social Media Trigger Narcissism? (Südwestrundfunk SWR.de)

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17.10.2025

Make Narcissist FEAR YOU: Abandonment Anxiety, Annihilation Dread (Twin Anxieties)

In this video, Sam Vaknin explains the narcissist’s fear of abandonment, highlighting the paradox where narcissists both dread abandonment by their idealized objects yet push others away during the devaluation phase due to their twin anxieties of abandonment and annihilation. He elaborates on how these anxieties influence narcissistic behavior and offers strategies to leverage the abandonment anxiety in the idealization phase through threats of leaving, while using implied power to deter abuse during the devaluation phase. Vaknin emphasizes that understanding these dynamics can help those involved with narcissists manage or mitigate abuse, although his primary recommendation remains to cut contact if possible.

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16.10.2025

Serial idealizers, Anxious People-pleasers, Addicts: NOT Narcissists

In this lecture, the speaker, Sam Dagny, explores misunderstood behaviors often mistaken for pathological narcissism, focusing on serial idealizers, anxious people pleasers, addicts, and individuals with borderline personality disorder. He differentiates these groups by highlighting their unique psychodynamic processes, such as the serial idealizers’ rapid fantasy creation, people pleasers’ anxiety-driven boundarylessness, addicts’ denial of control, and borderlines’ fear of abandonment and engulfment. The talk emphasizes that grandiosity, while common in narcissism, also appears in various other mental health disorders, cautioning against conflating grandiosity with narcissism itself.

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16.10.2025

Querying the Enemy: Hurt People Question Narcissism’s Aftermath (Q&A Skopje Seminar, 2025)

In the seminar, Professor Sam Vaknin discussed the dynamics of narcissistic families, explaining concepts like projective splitting, the roles of scapegoat and golden child, and the conditional nature of love in narcissistic relationships. He emphasized the difficulty in recognizing narcissists due to cognitive dissonance, the contagious nature of narcissism, and distinctions between narcissistic traits and clinical narcissism. The session also touched on complex issues such as shared fantasies in relationships, the rare clinical diagnosis of narcissism compared to narcissistic traits, and the unique sexual dynamics in narcissists. Querying the Enemy: Hurt People Question Narcissism’s Aftermath (Q&A Skopje Seminar, 2025)

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15.10.2025

Narcissistic Ideas of Progress: Our Dystopian Future (with Ginger Coy)

In this in-depth discussion, Sam Ving and Ginger Koy explore the pervasive influence of narcissism and psychopathy in global leadership, highlighting the inevitable self-destructive nature of such figures like Trump, and the broader clash between Renaissance and Enlightenment values shaping today’s sociopolitical landscape. They argue that universal franchise democracy is flawed, advocating for a pragmatic acceptance of narcissism and victimhood as societal forces while warning of a potential shift towards autocracy and totalitarianism, with Islam emerging as a significant ideological influence. The conversation also critiques technological impacts on social isolation, the failure of the Enlightenment project, and emphasizes the need to confront harsh realities rather than rely on fantasies or simplistic moral judgments. Narcissistic Ideas.

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15.10.2025

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