Category: Summaries

How to Survive Your Borderline Partner (Clip: Narcissism Summaries YouTube Channel)

The meeting advised multiple techniques for supporting a partner with borderline personality traits: teach her to externalize and verbalize emotions (e.g., chair work), use CBT to counteract automatic negative thoughts, and practice anger-management and cognitive restructuring. Establish strict communication protocols, consistent routines, stress-management, and reduce environmental triggers to stabilize mood swings; encourage physical activity, sleep schedules, and incremental transfer of locus of control back to her while rewarding responsible behavior. Do not accept blame for her actions or moods—gently refuse scapegoating, avoid criticism, and help her regain internal responsibility through gradual, kind reinforcement. How to Survive Your Borderline Partner (Clip: Narcissism Summaries YouTube Channel)

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Victim, Survivor: Make 2026 Great Again! (Compilation)

The speaker provides a structured nine-principle program to recover from narcissistic abuse, grouped into three body principles (attention, regulation, protection), three mind principles (authenticity, positivity, mindfulness), and three systemic functions (vigilant observer, shielding sensor, reality sentinel). Emphasis is placed on rebuilding self-knowledge and boundaries, grounding in the present, balancing old and new experiences, and cultivating wisdom, self-love, and assertiveness rather than aggression. Practical guidance includes monitoring and protecting the body, filtering internal and external voices, verifying reality before trusting, surrounding oneself with mentors, and aiming for “good enough” progress rather than perfection. Victim, Survivor: Make 2026 Great Again! (Compilation)

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Are YOU the Narcissist’s Fantasy?

Sam Vaknin explains the narcissist’s shared fantasy as a paracosm centered on a false self (a godlike father figure) and an idealized intimate partner (mother role), created to defend against childhood trauma via splitting and imaginary friends. He links this fantasy-making to creativity and giftedness, notes its religious and cult-like features, and describes how narcissists refuse to grow up, defend their fantasy fiercely, and often shift between somatic and cerebral strategies to extract narcissistic supply. He emphasizes that partners play a role in co-creating the shared fantasy but should feel proud to leave toxic relationships, as ending them is an act of self-preservation and healing. Are YOU the Narcissist’s Fantasy?

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Injure a Narcissist

Two Ways to Injure a Narcissist: Narcissistic (overt) vs. Self-efficacy (covert) Injury

The speaker distinguishes covert (fragile) and overt (grandiose) narcissists, explaining that covert types self-supply and regulate internally while overt types depend on external supply and external regulation. Four reactions to failure are outlined—narcissistic injury and mortification when failing to deceive oneself, and self-efficacy injury (covert) versus narcissistic injury (overt) when failing to deceive others—and modification is described as a more severe breakdown that is public in overt cases and private in covert cases. The talk also emphasizes that narcissists intentionally generate crisis and drama as instrumental defenses against depression and anxiety, using abuse and spectacle to sustain grandiosity and a sense of purpose. Two Ways to Injure a Narcissist: Narcissistic (overt) vs. Self-efficacy (covert) Injury

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NPD: American Hype or Clinical Entity? (DSM 5-TR vs. ICD-11) (University of Applied Sciences)

The contrast between DSM and ICD highlights a broader debate in mental health: Should diagnosis be rigid and categorical or flexible and dimensional? The ICD’s nuanced, clinically informed, and culturally sensitive approach better aligns with the realities of Cluster B personality disorders and human psychology. Clinicians, researchers, and patients benefit from diagnostic systems that reflect the complexity, fluidity, and cultural embeddedness of personality disorders. Moving toward ICD-like models promises improved understanding, treatment, and outcomes for those affected by these challenging conditions. NPD: American Hype or Clinical Entity? (DSM 5-TR vs. ICD-11) (University of Applied Sciences)

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“Ego Death”: Ignorant, Bad Idea

The ego is indispensable for psychological health, social adaptation, and self-coherence. It is the wise mediator that balances instinctual desires, moral demands, and reality. Rather than seeking to obliterate the ego, psychological growth involves strengthening and integrating it.
The myth of ego death, popularized without understanding, risks encouraging harmful psychological states akin to narcissism or psychopathy. Recognizing the ego’s true nature helps us appreciate the complexity of the mind and the foundations of mental health. “Ego Death”: Ignorant, Bad Idea

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“Expert” Common Sense is Often Nonsense

The video advocates for scientific literacy, skepticism of simplistic explanations, and awareness of the complexity underlying psychological and behavioral phenomena. It emphasizes that science, not common sense, must guide our understanding of human nature and mental health. “Expert” Common Sense is Often Nonsense

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How Narcissist Perceives Your/Their Death

The speaker explains that narcissists experience death differently from healthy people: they psychologically deny death and experience an internalized state of “being dead,” so external deaths register as mere factual updates rather than emotionally impactful events. Narcissists lack object constancy and instead maintain internalized representations (internal objects) of others that never truly die, allowing them to cognitively note a death without emotional assimilation. The talk draws on psychoanalytic concepts like introjection and “ego passage” to argue that the narcissist’s mind operates as a dynamic hive of internal objects, preventing genuine integration of loss or transformation. How Narcissist Perceives Your/Their Death

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Narcissism: Social Malaise Affects Individuals (with Psychologist and Biologist Marcia Maia)

Healthy narcissism is a foundational element of mental health—regulating self-worth, identity, and functioning—while the speaker argued that reality testing should be added as a core criterion to distinguish health from shared or delusional fantasies. The discussion warned that political correctness, the glamorization/denial of mental illness, and social media’s business model encourage addictive shared fantasies and hive minds that amplify envy, anger, and exclusion, eroding institutions and interpersonal belonging. The guest argued we are amid a major narrative transition (from reality-based to fantasy-based social organization) that is fragmenting society, increasing atomization and risk, and may be effectively irreversible once fully entrenched. Narcissism: Social Malaise Affects Individuals (with Psychologist and Biologist Marcia Maia)

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