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Category: Summaries

(GERMAN) Do Social Media Trigger Narcissism? (Südwestrundfunk SWR.de)

In der Besprechung wurde das Thema der narzisstischen Auswirkungen sozialer Medien auf Jugendliche diskutiert, insbesondere wie Plattformen wie Instagram und TikTok Selbstbezogenheit und Isolation fördern. Psychologen betonten, dass die ständige Suche nach Aufmerksamkeit und Likes ein fragiles Selbstbild kaschiert und dass soziale Medien menschliche Nähe und reale Beziehungen gefährden. Es wurde empfohlen, sich bewusst mit den eigenen Werten und Zielen auseinanderzusetzen, um der Oberflächlichkeit und Suchtpotenzial entgegenzuwirken. (GERMAN) Do Social Media Trigger Narcissism? (Südwestrundfunk SWR.de)

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17.10.2025

Make Narcissist FEAR YOU: Abandonment Anxiety, Annihilation Dread (Twin Anxieties)

In this video, Sam Vaknin explains the narcissist’s fear of abandonment, highlighting the paradox where narcissists both dread abandonment by their idealized objects yet push others away during the devaluation phase due to their twin anxieties of abandonment and annihilation. He elaborates on how these anxieties influence narcissistic behavior and offers strategies to leverage the abandonment anxiety in the idealization phase through threats of leaving, while using implied power to deter abuse during the devaluation phase. Vaknin emphasizes that understanding these dynamics can help those involved with narcissists manage or mitigate abuse, although his primary recommendation remains to cut contact if possible.

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16.10.2025

Serial idealizers, Anxious People-pleasers, Addicts: NOT Narcissists

In this lecture, the speaker, Sam Dagny, explores misunderstood behaviors often mistaken for pathological narcissism, focusing on serial idealizers, anxious people pleasers, addicts, and individuals with borderline personality disorder. He differentiates these groups by highlighting their unique psychodynamic processes, such as the serial idealizers’ rapid fantasy creation, people pleasers’ anxiety-driven boundarylessness, addicts’ denial of control, and borderlines’ fear of abandonment and engulfment. The talk emphasizes that grandiosity, while common in narcissism, also appears in various other mental health disorders, cautioning against conflating grandiosity with narcissism itself.

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16.10.2025

Querying the Enemy: Hurt People Question Narcissism’s Aftermath (Q&A Skopje Seminar, 2025)

In the seminar, Professor Sam Vaknin discussed the dynamics of narcissistic families, explaining concepts like projective splitting, the roles of scapegoat and golden child, and the conditional nature of love in narcissistic relationships. He emphasized the difficulty in recognizing narcissists due to cognitive dissonance, the contagious nature of narcissism, and distinctions between narcissistic traits and clinical narcissism. The session also touched on complex issues such as shared fantasies in relationships, the rare clinical diagnosis of narcissism compared to narcissistic traits, and the unique sexual dynamics in narcissists. Querying the Enemy: Hurt People Question Narcissism’s Aftermath (Q&A Skopje Seminar, 2025)

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15.10.2025

Narcissistic Ideas of Progress: Our Dystopian Future (with Ginger Coy)

In this in-depth discussion, Sam Ving and Ginger Koy explore the pervasive influence of narcissism and psychopathy in global leadership, highlighting the inevitable self-destructive nature of such figures like Trump, and the broader clash between Renaissance and Enlightenment values shaping today’s sociopolitical landscape. They argue that universal franchise democracy is flawed, advocating for a pragmatic acceptance of narcissism and victimhood as societal forces while warning of a potential shift towards autocracy and totalitarianism, with Islam emerging as a significant ideological influence. The conversation also critiques technological impacts on social isolation, the failure of the Enlightenment project, and emphasizes the need to confront harsh realities rather than rely on fantasies or simplistic moral judgments. Narcissistic Ideas.

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15.10.2025

3 Reactions to Narcissistic Abuse: Pride, Defiance, Normalizing

The video discussed three primary coping mechanisms victims use to survive narcissistic abuse: embracing victimhood pride, responding with defiant reactive abuse, and adopting a submissive stance often marked by denial or self-blame. It outlined two phases of narcissistic abuse—gradual, imperceptible testing and abrupt, harsh devaluation—and examined how these induce pathological mindsets in victims, including professional victims who identify strongly with their victimhood. The conversation also highlighted the complexity of trauma bonding and how victims’ reactions impact their mental health and relationship dynamics.

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14.10.2025

Impotent Sexual Narcissist: Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation

The video is focused on the complex relationship between narcissism, particularly covert narcissism, and sexual dysfunction, emphasizing psychological factors such as intimacy fears, autoerotism, and the challenge to the narcissist’s grandiose self-concept. Research findings were discussed highlighting that narcissistic traits and psychopathy correlate positively with erectile dysfunction, while Machiavellianism and high sexual self-efficacy may have protective effects. Additionally, the impact of personality disorders on sexual dysfunction in chronic pain patients was reviewed, underscoring the importance of addressing underlying psychological issues for effective treatment.

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13.10.2025

Narcissist’s Relationship Cycle Decoded and What To Do About It – Part 1 of 3

In this seminar, Sam Vaknin explored the complex psychology of pathological narcissism, explaining it as a result of childhood trauma and arrested development, characterized by repetition compulsion, emotional dysregulation, and a pervasive self-loathing. He detailed the cyclical nature of relationships with narcissists, including love bombing, idealization, devaluation, and discard, emphasizing the narcissist’s unconscious attempt to resolve early maternal conflicts through intimate partners. Vaknin highlighted that narcissists, lacking true self-love and stable identity, use their partners to fulfill unmet developmental needs, ultimately leading to a toxic dynamic where separation and individuation can only occur through devaluation and discard.

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13.10.2025

Narcissist’s “Mother” and Anti-“mother” (Excerpt)

The discussion explored the complex psychological dynamics of narcissists seeking idealized maternal figures, particularly focusing on male heterosexual narcissists’ quest for a flawless, devoted partner to sustain their grandiose fantasies. The narrative described the narcissist’s cyclical pattern of adoring a “mother” figure, rejecting her upon inevitable failure, and then engaging with an “anti-mother” who embodies destructiveness and self-punishment. Ultimately, this cycle perpetuates the narcissist’s pursuit of redemption, absolution, and transcendence through repeated relational patterns.

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12.10.2025

First AI: Narcissists, Psychopaths (2014 Lecture) (Vaknin Narcissism Summaries)

The video explored the concept of artificial intelligence, emphasizing machines convincing humans they are human and raising philosophical questions about empathy and the nature of humanity. It delved into the psychological traits of narcissists and psychopaths, highlighting their lack of empathy, objectification of others, and the impact on human interaction and communication. The conversation concluded with reflections on collective mental health issues and the perceived divide between psychology and psychiatry within the scientific community.

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12.10.2025

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