Narcissist’s Idealization in Grandiosity Bubble
Introduction to Idealization and Narcissism
- The meeting began by introducing the concept of idealization in narcissism, particularly its role in the early stages of the narcissist’s shared fantasy involving lovebombing and auditioning of the target. The narcissist idealizes the partner to elevate and perfect their self-image through co-idealization. [00:00]
Functions of Idealization
- Idealization serves several psychological functions:
- Co-idealization – Narcissist idealizes the partner to idealize himself by ownership and possession.
- Baiting – The narcissist offers the idealized image of the partner back to them, creating addiction to the narcissist’s gaze and maintaining control.
- Bubbling – A neglected but crucial function involving creating “grandiosity bubbles” to defend against collapse by rejecting reality. [01:00]
Definition and Nature of Grandiosity Bubbles
- A grandiosity bubble is defined as a fantasy defense mechanism where the narcissist opts for fantasy over reality completely. It acts as a membrane that filters out anything undermining the narcissist’s inflated self-concept and serves as an echo chamber supporting the grandiosity narrative. [05:00]
Types and Examples of Grandiosity Bubbles
- Various types of grandiosity bubbles include those based on agitation (celebrities with fans), grievances, or ideological groups acting as intellectual silos. Examples of such bubbles include religious cults, psychoanalytic movements, and other close-knit groups that uphold a grandiose narrative through confirmation bias. [06:30]
Dynamics of Pathological Narcissistic Spaces
- Pathological narcissistic spaces (e.g., pubs, churches, workplaces) are the narcissist’s environments for securing narcissistic supply. When these spaces become depleted or reveal the narcissist’s manipulations, the narcissist panics and seeks new sources, often leading to the creation of new grandiosity bubbles. [08:30]
Formation and Functioning of Grandiosity Bubbles
- During their formation, narcissists:
- Incorporate elements of real life into a self-aggrandizing, fantastical narrative (confabulation).
- Reinvent roles (e.g., actor, guru) to fit the fabricated narrative.
- Control and manipulate participants to uphold the fantasy.
- Face a “grandiosity gap” when reality contradicts the bubble, leading to eventual disillusionment and devaluation of bubble participants and conditions. [10:00]
Temporary and Defensive Nature of Grandiosity Bubbles
- Grandiosity bubbles are transient, defensive, and reactive structures—differing from stable shared fantasies. They serve as isolating protective mechanisms allowing narcissists to recover after mortification or collapse and prepare for new shared fantasies with fresh sources of supply. [13:00]
Role of Grandiosity Bubbles in Narcissistic Cycles
- Bubbles are rare and protective rather than part of the normal narcissistic mini-cycle. They help the narcissist avoid reality and emotional pain such as humiliation or rejection between fantasy cycles. The narcissist emerges renewed from the bubble to engage in new manipulation and exploitation. [14:30]
Psychological Impact and Conclusion
- Deflation of bubbles is a relief for the narcissist, not a narcissistic injury, seen as experimentation. The bubble process is cathartic and cleansing, enabling the narcissist to continue projecting a false self and maintaining pathological narcissistic spaces with inflated self-concepts. This sequence occurs entirely within the narcissist’s mind. [16:00]
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