Get Parasite Narcissist Out of Your Colonized Mind

1. Introduction to Shared Fantasy and Narcissism

• Shared fantasy is described as a paracosm, an alternative universe constructed by the narcissist to control their intimate partner’s perception and emotions. The narcissist acts like a parasite infiltrating the victim’s mind, hijacking their mental functions and autonomy.
• The narcissist idealizes the partner, who falls in love not with the narcissist but with their idealized image, creating dependency and gratitude.
• Shared fantasy induces a mass psychogenic illness affecting both parties and prolonged grief disorder affecting victims, making recovery from toxic relationships difficult.
• Shared fantasy functions as a trance-like, pseudo-hypnotic state with dissociative elements like depersonalization and derealization, disrupting reality testing.
• Fantasy in this context inhibits action and agency, unlike dreams which interface with reality.
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2. Mechanisms of Manipulation: Entrainment and Dissociation

• Grooming or love bombing induces a dissociative trance state in the victim involving amnesia, depersonalization, and derealization, aiding the abuser in controlling the victim.
• Entrainment is a neuroscientific phenomenon where external stimuli like music or repetitive verbal abuse synchronize brainwaves between the abuser and victim, creating a merged or enmeshed mind state.
• The abuser’s brain waves override the victim’s own, externalizing self-regulation to the abuser and leading to trauma bonding through methods like intermittent reinforcement and approach-avoidance dynamics.
• Victims become “empty shells,” with emotions and cognitions that are artifacts induced by the abuser rather than authentic.
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3. Emotional and Cognitive Impact of Abuse

• Emotional artifacts are generated in the victim’s brain by the abuser’s control, creating feelings and thoughts perceived as their own but actually implanted.
• Victims often feel estranged or alien to themselves, mirroring the abuser’s traits, a process supported by studies on synchronization and mimicry in relationships and social groups.
• Dissociation impairs memory formation, critical to identity and resistance, resulting in identity disturbance and vulnerability to further intrusion.
• The abuser controls what memories are retained or forgotten to maintain power and influence over the victim.
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4. Memory, Identity, and Recovery

• Memory loss during the abusive shared fantasy creates a gap in the victim’s identity, making trauma recovery challenging.
• Recovery involves distinguishing between authentic and implanted voices/emotions, memory retrieval, and individuation to rebuild self-identity.
• There is a strong parallel between verbal abuse entrainment and musical entrainment, emphasizing the potency of repetitive verbal patterns in manipulating brain functions.
• The concept of dissociation includes the distinction between total dissociation and permeable dissociative states, with trauma reinforcing memory fragmentation.
• Recovery of memory improves self-continuity and enables victims to resist intrusive thoughts and regain agency.
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5. Psychological and Neuroscientific Perspectives on Abuse

• Abuse is conceptualized as a parasitic invasion or viral infection at the cognitive/emotional level, altering the victim’s brain and behavior much like biological parasites alter host behavior.
• The shared fantasy depends on keeping the victim dissociated and amnesic, and its collapse occurs as memory and self-regulation return to the victim.
• Trauma functions as a kind of language, organizing victims’ worldview, creating trauma bonding through emotional investment in the trauma narrative.
• The abuser’s control uses repeated structured speech with musical properties that exploit brainwave synchronization to achieve sustained domination.
• Neuroscientific findings reveal the profound effect of external auditory stimuli on brainwave patterns and the vulnerable neuroplasticity of the brain.
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6. Broader Implications and Clinical Applications

• The concepts of shared fantasy, entrainment, and dissociation help explain symptoms seen in borderline personality disorder, psychosis, and complex trauma.
• There is a need to treat psychological abuse with the same understanding and tools as physical and sexual abuse due to their shared neuropsychological mechanisms.
• Memory recovery techniques, including hypnosis, are vital for healing and breaking the cycle of trauma bonding and emotional artifacts.
• Identity disturbance reflects the dissolution of boundaries between self and abuser, requiring reconstruction of self through memory, separation, and individuation.
• The meeting emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing verbal and psychological abuse as severe forms of mind control that profoundly affect autonomy and mental health.
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This detailed summary provides an organized overview of key topics addressing the psychological manipulation by narcissists through shared fantasy, brain entrainment, dissociation, and the pathways toward recovery and healing.