When YOU Adopt Slave Mentality in Narcissist’s Shared Fantasy
1. Introduction to Slave Mentality in Narcissistic Relationships
- The meeting opened with a discussion about how narcissists inculcate slave mentality in their victims, who collaborate and succumb to it, playing roles akin to indentured servitude within the narcissist’s shared fantasy [00:00].
2. Victims’ Resistance and Narcissist’s Reaction
- Victims often try to maintain personal autonomy and establish boundaries, but the narcissist perceives this as a threat, leading to rage and a sense of personal attack. Being oneself is viewed as a direct challenge to the narcissist’s identity and the shared fantasy [01:15].
- The narcissist demands obedience to the shared fantasy, which is likened to a movie script where the narcissist directs and controls everything [02:00].
- The narcissist’s impaired reality testing causes them to perceive reality as a dream and the fantasy as reality, making rejection of the fantasy equivalent to rejecting the narcissist [02:45].
3. The Narcissist’s Internal World and Shared Fantasy
- The narcissist’s mind is a paracosm where everything is internalized; all relationships and objects are internal objects (puppets). The narcissist demands control over this fantasy world [03:30].
- Rejecting the shared fantasy is viewed as subversion and war, leading to the victim being devalued and labeled an enemy internally [04:30].
4. Impact of Maintaining Personal Identity
- Maintaining core identity and independent behavior threatens the narcissist’s internal dialogue among internal objects, contributing to the narcissistic injury and mortification [05:45].
- The self, even the false self, is an internal puppet in the narcissist’s mind; refusal to submit disrupts this system [06:45].
5. Assimilation and the Birth of Slave Mentality
- Over time, many victims lose their core identity and become alienated, adopting behaviors unrec
